I watched Sound of Music on Wednesday with my school and loved it! Now, I really want to watch it again, how do I convince my parents to watch it with me? I don't want like, the best seats, but at least good seats. I know we aren't rich, we're a middle class family. But what's a good way to know that I want to watch it without obsessing over it?What's a good way to convince your parents to watch a Broadway musical?
Act normal and keep it simple.
Tuesday, August 24, 2010
What Should I do To prove to my parents that I can take care of a bunny?
I really want a bunny but my parents wont let me, they say that i need to prove myself responsible. what do i do to prove that?What Should I do To prove to my parents that I can take care of a bunny?
Just so you know, rabbits are A LOT more work than most traditional pets. When people say they are an ';easy pet,'; it is a huge misconception.
I only have one bunny, but I have a very lengthy care routine that must be carried out everyday.
He eats four cups of freshly chopped veggies every morning with unlimited hay (you must rotate at least 3 types of bunny-safe veggies a day to ensure he gets all the necissary vitamins) and his water needs to be changed regularly.
His litterbox must be cleaned daily because the ammonia will damage his lungs (not to mention accidents- bunnies are really messy)
I have to groom him every other day since he is long-haired and clip his nails once a month.
He needs a hutch/cage that needs to be cleaned and maintained weekly.
He has a bunny proof room (as all should- do not keep them locked in cages!!!). We have playtime and rotate toys daily.
He needs regular vet checks to ensure healthy teeth and GI.
The list goes on....
Now, my bunny Linus is one of my most favorite pets, but even as an single adult, I have trouble finding enough time to care for his basic needs. Perhaps your parents are right. Unless they are willing to help with the care of the bunny, you may have more than you can handle, and one should not get a pet unless they can offer it the best quality life.
As for convincing your parents, buy SEVERAL good quality rabbit books that cover everything from health to basic care. Read them through until you are an expert on the subject. Consider if you still want the enormous responsibility.
Then sit down with your parents and tell them everything this lovely new pet will entail and work out a comprimise.
Good luck!!!
~AnnieWhat Should I do To prove to my parents that I can take care of a bunny?
if they said that then ask them how to do itif they wont tell you.
if there is a family pet take some of that responsibility
clean your room
always do what you are told
oh and last summer after i got a giune pig i thought i wwas ready but owning a pet is a lot of work (a rabbit is even more work thana guine pig) and i know you have heard that from your parents but until i got a guine pig i had no clue how much work.
try to get your parents to let you ';test drive'; a freind rabiit hamster gerbil guine pig or soemthing like that for a week or see and then reavaluate your readiness for a pet.
when i was aiming for a guine pig last year i probably would have ignored this if someone told it to me saying i was ready for the responsibility but be careful oh if you do get one make sure you get the care sheet from your ocal petsmart and save yourself $50 and buy food and bedding from walmart. i boought everything from petsmart for guine pig and cost $80 when i could have but what had to be bught at petsmart for $30 (guine pig and water bottle and chew sticks) and bought the rest for $15 at walmart
You could start researching the breeds and which one you like best. Also you could find out the cost of a rabbit per month and start saving the money for a hutch, rabbit, food, etc. I hope this helps! Good Luck!
Just so you know, rabbits are A LOT more work than most traditional pets. When people say they are an ';easy pet,'; it is a huge misconception.
I only have one bunny, but I have a very lengthy care routine that must be carried out everyday.
He eats four cups of freshly chopped veggies every morning with unlimited hay (you must rotate at least 3 types of bunny-safe veggies a day to ensure he gets all the necissary vitamins) and his water needs to be changed regularly.
His litterbox must be cleaned daily because the ammonia will damage his lungs (not to mention accidents- bunnies are really messy)
I have to groom him every other day since he is long-haired and clip his nails once a month.
He needs a hutch/cage that needs to be cleaned and maintained weekly.
He has a bunny proof room (as all should- do not keep them locked in cages!!!). We have playtime and rotate toys daily.
He needs regular vet checks to ensure healthy teeth and GI.
The list goes on....
Now, my bunny Linus is one of my most favorite pets, but even as an single adult, I have trouble finding enough time to care for his basic needs. Perhaps your parents are right. Unless they are willing to help with the care of the bunny, you may have more than you can handle, and one should not get a pet unless they can offer it the best quality life.
As for convincing your parents, buy SEVERAL good quality rabbit books that cover everything from health to basic care. Read them through until you are an expert on the subject. Consider if you still want the enormous responsibility.
Then sit down with your parents and tell them everything this lovely new pet will entail and work out a comprimise.
Good luck!!!
~AnnieWhat Should I do To prove to my parents that I can take care of a bunny?
if they said that then ask them how to do itif they wont tell you.
if there is a family pet take some of that responsibility
clean your room
always do what you are told
oh and last summer after i got a giune pig i thought i wwas ready but owning a pet is a lot of work (a rabbit is even more work thana guine pig) and i know you have heard that from your parents but until i got a guine pig i had no clue how much work.
try to get your parents to let you ';test drive'; a freind rabiit hamster gerbil guine pig or soemthing like that for a week or see and then reavaluate your readiness for a pet.
when i was aiming for a guine pig last year i probably would have ignored this if someone told it to me saying i was ready for the responsibility but be careful oh if you do get one make sure you get the care sheet from your ocal petsmart and save yourself $50 and buy food and bedding from walmart. i boought everything from petsmart for guine pig and cost $80 when i could have but what had to be bught at petsmart for $30 (guine pig and water bottle and chew sticks) and bought the rest for $15 at walmart
You could start researching the breeds and which one you like best. Also you could find out the cost of a rabbit per month and start saving the money for a hutch, rabbit, food, etc. I hope this helps! Good Luck!
How old do you have to be to get your eyebrows waxed at bestcuts without a parent or something?
Okay, I'm 13 and I want to get my eyebrows waxed. At bestcuts salon, am I allowed to with my friends like without a parent? Please give me evidence or something on how you know for surem :) thabkk youuHow old do you have to be to get your eyebrows waxed at bestcuts without a parent or something?
You have to be old enough to have money.How old do you have to be to get your eyebrows waxed at bestcuts without a parent or something?
I have gotten my own hair cut and everything else since I was 13. They don't ask questions really. It's only a minor service so you should have no issue.
i've never heard of bestcuts, but if they let you go there without a parent to get a haircut, then they'll let you go get ur brows waxed
just go and see if they do it. if they don't, they don't.
I'm pretty sure u don't need ur parents when u get ur eyebrow's waxed...i've gotten mine done with the string n i was just with some friends
16 or 18. or who cares.
well pbob not well eyebrows WAXED you need a parent
I like waffles
hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm my mom does eyebrows and i think 16 but im not so suremakeup help
You have to be old enough to have money.How old do you have to be to get your eyebrows waxed at bestcuts without a parent or something?
I have gotten my own hair cut and everything else since I was 13. They don't ask questions really. It's only a minor service so you should have no issue.
i've never heard of bestcuts, but if they let you go there without a parent to get a haircut, then they'll let you go get ur brows waxed
just go and see if they do it. if they don't, they don't.
I'm pretty sure u don't need ur parents when u get ur eyebrow's waxed...i've gotten mine done with the string n i was just with some friends
16 or 18. or who cares.
well pbob not well eyebrows WAXED you need a parent
I like waffles
hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm my mom does eyebrows and i think 16 but im not so sure
Should parents who stick their children on ritalin be subject to a psychological evaluation them selves?
I mean, it is a well known fact that add and adhd are way over diagnosed. Should it be a law that before a child may be diagnosed with a behavioral disorder, that their parents must first be subjected to psychological evaluation to make certain that the parent in and of themselves is not causing the behavioral disorder through their own actions?Should parents who stick their children on ritalin be subject to a psychological evaluation them selves?
I don't think pills are the answer to making a child calm down, or behave. When I was 7 I had a mean streak. I was really bad at school and was put in Juvenile hall. The doctors answer to it was, let's put him on this medication!(Can't remember the name of it)
But that medication didn't help me at all. I was still being mean. But a good *** whoopin from my dad fixed the problem.
But yeah medication is not the answer. I think kids are over drugged.Should parents who stick their children on ritalin be subject to a psychological evaluation them selves?
I understand your concern about the parental (and teacher, since they request a lot of the tests) role in assessing ADHD (it is now all called that--see links below).
However, only 3 to 5% of children are actually diagnosed.
Diagnosing is done by doctors, not parents.
Brain-imaging has been done to prove the existence of ADHD in children as young as 3 years old.
In any case, a law is a bit dramatic and a psychological evaluation of the parents won't necessarily tell you whether or not they are good parents. Perhaps Family Therapy should be part of the prescription instead. ADHD and children with behavior disorders (no matter how they came about--fetal alcohol syndrome, etc) need more attention from parents and better practices at home.
As for the high incidences of ADHD, have you ever done research on US vaccinations that contained mercury? The occurrences coincide.
Although I agree that pills are given out like candy now a days. A parent is only looking out for the well being of their child. Now don't get me wrong I am perfectly fine with psychologists, they have helped a person I know a BUNCH. There are going to be some doctors who just dole out the easy answer of Ritalin though, but not all doctors are like that.
The American standard for diagnosis needs to be changed.
In the UK (where the incidence rate is 1 child out of 1000) a psychologist AND medical doctor need to observe and diagnose the phenomena in two settings....
So why is it here that half a classroom can have it?
Hmmmmmm?
Is there something so different between British and American Children? Yeah, I didn't think so either....
I don't think that they should just be put on medication because their parents say they should
Some parents only want to put their kids on ritalin, painkillers and other sedatives so that they can be put on their own high on their painkillers or whatever that they've been prescribed
Mostly over restriction by the parents is leading to psychological evaluation. Children's should be turned to give ears what we say be achieved with more love and affection we show them in all aspects.
Yes, I suppose that does seem reasonable.
I don't think pills are the answer to making a child calm down, or behave. When I was 7 I had a mean streak. I was really bad at school and was put in Juvenile hall. The doctors answer to it was, let's put him on this medication!(Can't remember the name of it)
But that medication didn't help me at all. I was still being mean. But a good *** whoopin from my dad fixed the problem.
But yeah medication is not the answer. I think kids are over drugged.Should parents who stick their children on ritalin be subject to a psychological evaluation them selves?
I understand your concern about the parental (and teacher, since they request a lot of the tests) role in assessing ADHD (it is now all called that--see links below).
However, only 3 to 5% of children are actually diagnosed.
Diagnosing is done by doctors, not parents.
Brain-imaging has been done to prove the existence of ADHD in children as young as 3 years old.
In any case, a law is a bit dramatic and a psychological evaluation of the parents won't necessarily tell you whether or not they are good parents. Perhaps Family Therapy should be part of the prescription instead. ADHD and children with behavior disorders (no matter how they came about--fetal alcohol syndrome, etc) need more attention from parents and better practices at home.
As for the high incidences of ADHD, have you ever done research on US vaccinations that contained mercury? The occurrences coincide.
Although I agree that pills are given out like candy now a days. A parent is only looking out for the well being of their child. Now don't get me wrong I am perfectly fine with psychologists, they have helped a person I know a BUNCH. There are going to be some doctors who just dole out the easy answer of Ritalin though, but not all doctors are like that.
The American standard for diagnosis needs to be changed.
In the UK (where the incidence rate is 1 child out of 1000) a psychologist AND medical doctor need to observe and diagnose the phenomena in two settings....
So why is it here that half a classroom can have it?
Hmmmmmm?
Is there something so different between British and American Children? Yeah, I didn't think so either....
I don't think that they should just be put on medication because their parents say they should
Some parents only want to put their kids on ritalin, painkillers and other sedatives so that they can be put on their own high on their painkillers or whatever that they've been prescribed
Mostly over restriction by the parents is leading to psychological evaluation. Children's should be turned to give ears what we say be achieved with more love and affection we show them in all aspects.
Yes, I suppose that does seem reasonable.
My parents want to sign over their home to my brother and I. What do we need to do and will there be problems
Parents are both 65, the home is paid for, they will continue to pay the property taxes and insurance. They want to do this in case they are put in a nursing home.My parents want to sign over their home to my brother and I. What do we need to do and will there be problems
Check with an estate plan attorney. Property taxes will increase because they are now getting a discount because of their age. But there are other issues that an attorney can explain to you.My parents want to sign over their home to my brother and I. What do we need to do and will there be problems
Your parents should put the property in to a Living Trust, and assign a conservator to take charge of their affairs should they become incapable. In doing so, it will minimize taxes, legal costs, stress and heartache for all. You may consider consulting an attorney that specializes in estate law, or there are D.I.Y. trust kits. In any case, don't confuse a trust with a ';will';, or ';living will';. While a ';will'; can effect the transfer of property, it does not protect the estate from taxes, or probate, and a ';living will'; has nothing to do with property, a living will is a document that states a persons life choice in the event they become incapable of communicating either physically, or mentally whether or not they wish to live or die if on life support.
I understand why they would want to do this transfer.
You should check with an estate planner there might be a better way of doing this and achieving the same objective.
A consultation with an estate planner should be free for the first appointment. Also at that time you should ask the estate planner what cost would be involved for their services, if you decide to use them.
After seeing an estate planner you can make an intelligent decision as to if you want to do this transfer or not.
Before doing this transfer you might want to check with your tax consultant to find out any tax consequences that might affect the trnsfer.
If you still want to do this transfer, look in the telephone book and locate a title company. Call them, tell them you have a family transfer that you would like to make from parents to children.
While they are on the telephone ask the cost for their service, It should not be a lot perhaps less than $50.00 or so.
They will set up an appointment for you and your parents to come in and sign all the necessary paper work to accomplish the transfer. They will have a notary on staff that will take care of the notary requirements.
The title company will also make sure that the deeds and other necessary documents are recorded at the county recorders office in the county where the property is located.
Going through a title company will perhaps save a few potential legal problems down the road.
Make sure the title company send you and your brother a copy of all the deeds and other documents you were required to sign.
I hope this has been of some use to you, good luck.
';FIGHT ON';
Well if it happens within 3-5 years of the occurrence, the transfer can be undone. So you're saying they want to transfer the property to you and your brother and make the state pay for their care rather than paying for it themselves with their own assets????
They need to sign a QuitClaim Deed to you and your brother and it needs to be recorded. It may be exempt from transfer tax. You and your brother will likely have some gift tax liability as they are only permitted to give each of you $10-12,000 annually.
They should have Health Care Power of Attorney and Living Will forms executed. Very Important.
You want to double check in an attorney in your state to verify the best way to do it so you don't have to worry about estate taxes or want not. If they do put it in you name they have to chance the homeowners insurance to your names, they can still pay it but it can't be in their names if they do not own the home. Same thing with the taxes.. the tax department will automatically put your names on the tax bill but they don't care who pays it as long as it gets paid. What you want to do seems fine but I would double check with an attorney so you know the exact legality of what your doing and how it may effect you.
Each state allows a parent to ';gift'; their child(ren) each year a specific value, without an income tax implication. For example, $l6,000.00 per year per child. Check this out with a knowledgeable person/attorney.
In my State, if parents are put in a nursing home and no longer have real estate as an asset, the State will check the County records back three years for transfers of assets. If there are those type of transfers within the 3 year period, then the State will not pick up the tab, because they know that the transfer of real property was made to avoid nursing home bills.
The other answers about house insurance and property tax problems are correct too.
make sure you have some papers drawn up stating that each of you are in 50/50 and if any upkeep is to be done it must be in total agreement.I had some friends who had a ';family ';house and the brother totally made the house unliveable knocking down walls without his sisters approval or knowledge, and with no paperwork showing she was part owner there was nothing she could do. Good Luck.
call your tax person! not a H%26amp;R block person either, call someone in your area called an Enrolled Agent pay them the hourly rate and hear what they have to say, ask them about a living will and dont do anything until you have talked to them trust me, they are the TAX gods of the the tax world, and trust me it will be a tax issue if you dont handle it right.
learn to share you obviously are stuck up and don't know how many people live on the street you have a free home offered and your spending 5 points asking this question when you should be going with your brother and parents to sign an agreement to take the house.
Call an attorney immediately. In most states, it's better for your parents to will the house to you rather sign it over. It can make a HUGE tax difference.
You will need to go to a lawyer and have everything legally set up, otherwise probate court will take it all away after their deaths.
THIS IS A DUMB idea. Especially for the reasons given.
Your parents are losing ALL control on the house. The kids will have total contract and ownership. DO NOT DO THIS%26gt;
Dookey all up on yo' leg and smooth that leg out!
Den do a African spell to make you pleaseant at this moment in time!
honey, you need to take dat home so you aint livin on da street like me.
Kill brother and all will be good.
Check with an estate plan attorney. Property taxes will increase because they are now getting a discount because of their age. But there are other issues that an attorney can explain to you.My parents want to sign over their home to my brother and I. What do we need to do and will there be problems
Your parents should put the property in to a Living Trust, and assign a conservator to take charge of their affairs should they become incapable. In doing so, it will minimize taxes, legal costs, stress and heartache for all. You may consider consulting an attorney that specializes in estate law, or there are D.I.Y. trust kits. In any case, don't confuse a trust with a ';will';, or ';living will';. While a ';will'; can effect the transfer of property, it does not protect the estate from taxes, or probate, and a ';living will'; has nothing to do with property, a living will is a document that states a persons life choice in the event they become incapable of communicating either physically, or mentally whether or not they wish to live or die if on life support.
I understand why they would want to do this transfer.
You should check with an estate planner there might be a better way of doing this and achieving the same objective.
A consultation with an estate planner should be free for the first appointment. Also at that time you should ask the estate planner what cost would be involved for their services, if you decide to use them.
After seeing an estate planner you can make an intelligent decision as to if you want to do this transfer or not.
Before doing this transfer you might want to check with your tax consultant to find out any tax consequences that might affect the trnsfer.
If you still want to do this transfer, look in the telephone book and locate a title company. Call them, tell them you have a family transfer that you would like to make from parents to children.
While they are on the telephone ask the cost for their service, It should not be a lot perhaps less than $50.00 or so.
They will set up an appointment for you and your parents to come in and sign all the necessary paper work to accomplish the transfer. They will have a notary on staff that will take care of the notary requirements.
The title company will also make sure that the deeds and other necessary documents are recorded at the county recorders office in the county where the property is located.
Going through a title company will perhaps save a few potential legal problems down the road.
Make sure the title company send you and your brother a copy of all the deeds and other documents you were required to sign.
I hope this has been of some use to you, good luck.
';FIGHT ON';
Well if it happens within 3-5 years of the occurrence, the transfer can be undone. So you're saying they want to transfer the property to you and your brother and make the state pay for their care rather than paying for it themselves with their own assets????
They need to sign a QuitClaim Deed to you and your brother and it needs to be recorded. It may be exempt from transfer tax. You and your brother will likely have some gift tax liability as they are only permitted to give each of you $10-12,000 annually.
They should have Health Care Power of Attorney and Living Will forms executed. Very Important.
You want to double check in an attorney in your state to verify the best way to do it so you don't have to worry about estate taxes or want not. If they do put it in you name they have to chance the homeowners insurance to your names, they can still pay it but it can't be in their names if they do not own the home. Same thing with the taxes.. the tax department will automatically put your names on the tax bill but they don't care who pays it as long as it gets paid. What you want to do seems fine but I would double check with an attorney so you know the exact legality of what your doing and how it may effect you.
Each state allows a parent to ';gift'; their child(ren) each year a specific value, without an income tax implication. For example, $l6,000.00 per year per child. Check this out with a knowledgeable person/attorney.
In my State, if parents are put in a nursing home and no longer have real estate as an asset, the State will check the County records back three years for transfers of assets. If there are those type of transfers within the 3 year period, then the State will not pick up the tab, because they know that the transfer of real property was made to avoid nursing home bills.
The other answers about house insurance and property tax problems are correct too.
make sure you have some papers drawn up stating that each of you are in 50/50 and if any upkeep is to be done it must be in total agreement.I had some friends who had a ';family ';house and the brother totally made the house unliveable knocking down walls without his sisters approval or knowledge, and with no paperwork showing she was part owner there was nothing she could do. Good Luck.
call your tax person! not a H%26amp;R block person either, call someone in your area called an Enrolled Agent pay them the hourly rate and hear what they have to say, ask them about a living will and dont do anything until you have talked to them trust me, they are the TAX gods of the the tax world, and trust me it will be a tax issue if you dont handle it right.
learn to share you obviously are stuck up and don't know how many people live on the street you have a free home offered and your spending 5 points asking this question when you should be going with your brother and parents to sign an agreement to take the house.
Call an attorney immediately. In most states, it's better for your parents to will the house to you rather sign it over. It can make a HUGE tax difference.
You will need to go to a lawyer and have everything legally set up, otherwise probate court will take it all away after their deaths.
THIS IS A DUMB idea. Especially for the reasons given.
Your parents are losing ALL control on the house. The kids will have total contract and ownership. DO NOT DO THIS%26gt;
Dookey all up on yo' leg and smooth that leg out!
Den do a African spell to make you pleaseant at this moment in time!
honey, you need to take dat home so you aint livin on da street like me.
Kill brother and all will be good.
What qualities would you look for in adoptive parents?
My dad set up me up to meet a pair of potential adoptive parents for my unborn, what questions should I ask?What qualities would you look for in adoptive parents?
Stability - jobs, homes
Security - income, medical insurance
Lifestyle - family and friends, social activities, community involvement, church
Personalities - open, caring, humor, family oriented, stable emotionally
Background and references - no arrests, no addictions, great references from non relatives
This is just a beginning......
If you are adopting through an agency, they will give you a ';Profile'; which contains all this info and more. It's non identified (no specific details such as last names, etc.) just as your info (';Profile';) given to the adoptive parents is also de-identified. This really is the only way to start off. You can fully open it if you all agree after you really know each other over time (3 months or more).
Also, EVERY adopting couple must have an ADOPTION HOMESTUDY, which covers all of the above details plus many many more. You have a right to ready that (de-identified) or hear the attorney or social worker read it leaving out specifics (last names, company names, etc.).
As far as experienced parents or new ones -- both have ';advantages'; so you can't go wrong! Parents who already have a child are experienced -- and you can SEE for yourself how they are as parents by seeing them interact with and parent their first child. Also, you can SEE what their first child is like -- spoiled, well behaved, snotty, kind?? But then -- first time parents discover all the wonders and newness of parenting with your little one as their first! Neither child is loved or cherished or celebrated any less, I can assure you!!
In terms of race, I think more important than the couple's race is their attitude about races, ethnicites, cultures of ALL kinds. You should be able to SEE this in their lives. Diverse friends? Diverse church? Even art and ethnic foods! Look carefully at the photos in the PHOTO BOOK they should have made for you -- photos of their home, family, neighborhood, friends, vacations, celebrations, hobbies. What do you see? All one race? All one age group? Look for diversity, and that is the environment your child will be raised in. Be wary of monotone families with only one race reflected in their lives, photos. You do not want your child to be racially isolated.
This is where an experienced couple who has already adopted may be a strength to you --if they have already adopted a child of another race (any, in my opinion) then it MAY say something about their openness in general and their diverse lifestyle (But not always. Again, look for ways demonstrated throughout their lives.) Read about diversity and attitudes about people from different races and cultures in their homestudy -- this is a required part of the homestudy! They also have to QUALIFY to adopt a child who is other than their specific race/ethnicity, so this will be contained in their homestudy approval -- at the end of the report.
You have a right to ALL this information! If you are working through a good agency or adoption attorney, they know this and will provide this very willingly. If not -- ask for it! If you are not going through an attorney or agency, make sure someone gets a copy of all their paperwork first -- APPROVED homestudy, background checks, references, etc. And make sure you spell out on paper all the continuing contact you THINK you may EVER want, and that all of you sign this. Visitation? Photos, letters, gifts, etc.
Good luck, and what a great start you're making!!What qualities would you look for in adoptive parents?
Those are the main questions I would ask down in the source box. For me personally, I would really want to know about how the couple interact together, what their hobbies are, how much contact they wanted me to have and their religious beliefs. Race wouldn't really matter to me at all, but I am not sure about the whole kids thing. On one hand I would like to see how the couple treats the kids they already have... do they yell at them? are the kids dressed worse then the parents or better? Do the kids get along with each other basically? I think I would be equally open to a couple who had children and one who didn't.
The most important thing to look for is love among the family members. Visit their home and see how many pictures they have of family members. The more pictures, the better. Also ask them about what happens if you want to know about your child's progress or if the child asks about you. Ask them about their idea of raising kids (they should be strict enough to enforce structure in the child's life but not enough to physically abuse the child). Ask them for examples of their friends with kids they will imitate... and see if you can talk to some of them about their child-raising.
Also ask about their desire for education... a child needs to be given all the chances for good education, but not forced into a particular field.
I don't think race or previous children are a big issue, especially the latter. An older child who is happy and loved will in fact make a great older sibling for your child. And it's extra proof that the adoptive parents will love and nurture your child. It depends on the child and how the parents handle the new baby... remember, they could have a child after adopting your baby too. So don't go by that alone.
Good luck!!
I would want to know if they plan to raise the baby in a certain religion.
When we met our biological family, I don't recall many questions other than ';tell us a bit about yourselves';. That opened up the door for a wonderful conversation between all of us, and it just went beautifully from there. When they asked us to be the parents, we were ecstatic.
I would think if I was making an adoption plan for a child, I would want to know the basics, like how long the couple has been together and what their ideas of parenting would entail.
As for the race, we have many friends who have adopted internationally or children of a different race here in the states. I believe that is one of the beautiful things about our society today - that mixed families are not frowned upon as they were in the past - and it's a beautiful way to introduce new customs and traditions into family life.
Good luck to you. And ';thank you'; for creating an adoption plan for your child. You are giving an amazing gift to someone. Bless you.
The qualities in adoptive parents need be no different from those of biological parents but pls do ask if they would be open to ur having some connection/contact with ur baby later on in life.This is hugely important.The children ,often,show a strong desire later in life to know who their biological parents are.Many adoptive parents are open to this contact but some may not be comfortable with this idea.Best of luck and lots of love to u as u go thru the process of handing ur baby to the adoptive parents.
Financial status of the adoptive parents, their education, ask if they're college grads so they're able to teach your child properly. Race is a big issue, I think.. you want your child to learn from the same culture you grew up it. I agree with you, first time parents will be a better choice for that child.
Here are the questions I would ask:
Why do you want to adopt?
What do you do for a living?
What are your plans for work after the baby? Is one or the other going to stay home? Nanny, daycare?
How many hours a week do you work? (you don't want parents who work 80 hour weeks and have no time for your baby)
Financial capable of supporting a baby?
If they have children, how many? Have they talked to the children about adoptation?
Do they have family support? Grandparents close by, family/friends?
Are they going to tell the baby about being adopted? (Im not sure if you want an open adoption or semi-open or closed ) Will they keep in contact, pics, etc?
Then if you like those, get to know them
Where did you meet?
How long have you been married?
What do you do for hobbies/activities?
What is a way you deal with stress? Alone? Together?
Where do you live?
Make sure that if they check out there, that you go to their house and see where your child will be living, try and meet any family and friends that will be around the baby. This will give you a better idea on who they are. Good Luck!
Every question that has been posed so far is answered in the couples home study. I would ask to see their home study done by a licensed social worker. This is just the first meeting of many provided it goes well. Meet them and get your general feel. If you are like me you'll know after a short period of time whether you want to get to know them further.
Just remember no one is perfect and we all have our faults. You are looking for some one who would be a great parent.
As a side note I would say that I would ask what their intentions would be should the child be born with a deformity or mental deficiency. Are they looking for a perfect child? There is no such thing and at the same time they are all perfect.
Good luck.
Stability - jobs, homes
Security - income, medical insurance
Lifestyle - family and friends, social activities, community involvement, church
Personalities - open, caring, humor, family oriented, stable emotionally
Background and references - no arrests, no addictions, great references from non relatives
This is just a beginning......
If you are adopting through an agency, they will give you a ';Profile'; which contains all this info and more. It's non identified (no specific details such as last names, etc.) just as your info (';Profile';) given to the adoptive parents is also de-identified. This really is the only way to start off. You can fully open it if you all agree after you really know each other over time (3 months or more).
Also, EVERY adopting couple must have an ADOPTION HOMESTUDY, which covers all of the above details plus many many more. You have a right to ready that (de-identified) or hear the attorney or social worker read it leaving out specifics (last names, company names, etc.).
As far as experienced parents or new ones -- both have ';advantages'; so you can't go wrong! Parents who already have a child are experienced -- and you can SEE for yourself how they are as parents by seeing them interact with and parent their first child. Also, you can SEE what their first child is like -- spoiled, well behaved, snotty, kind?? But then -- first time parents discover all the wonders and newness of parenting with your little one as their first! Neither child is loved or cherished or celebrated any less, I can assure you!!
In terms of race, I think more important than the couple's race is their attitude about races, ethnicites, cultures of ALL kinds. You should be able to SEE this in their lives. Diverse friends? Diverse church? Even art and ethnic foods! Look carefully at the photos in the PHOTO BOOK they should have made for you -- photos of their home, family, neighborhood, friends, vacations, celebrations, hobbies. What do you see? All one race? All one age group? Look for diversity, and that is the environment your child will be raised in. Be wary of monotone families with only one race reflected in their lives, photos. You do not want your child to be racially isolated.
This is where an experienced couple who has already adopted may be a strength to you --if they have already adopted a child of another race (any, in my opinion) then it MAY say something about their openness in general and their diverse lifestyle (But not always. Again, look for ways demonstrated throughout their lives.) Read about diversity and attitudes about people from different races and cultures in their homestudy -- this is a required part of the homestudy! They also have to QUALIFY to adopt a child who is other than their specific race/ethnicity, so this will be contained in their homestudy approval -- at the end of the report.
You have a right to ALL this information! If you are working through a good agency or adoption attorney, they know this and will provide this very willingly. If not -- ask for it! If you are not going through an attorney or agency, make sure someone gets a copy of all their paperwork first -- APPROVED homestudy, background checks, references, etc. And make sure you spell out on paper all the continuing contact you THINK you may EVER want, and that all of you sign this. Visitation? Photos, letters, gifts, etc.
Good luck, and what a great start you're making!!What qualities would you look for in adoptive parents?
Those are the main questions I would ask down in the source box. For me personally, I would really want to know about how the couple interact together, what their hobbies are, how much contact they wanted me to have and their religious beliefs. Race wouldn't really matter to me at all, but I am not sure about the whole kids thing. On one hand I would like to see how the couple treats the kids they already have... do they yell at them? are the kids dressed worse then the parents or better? Do the kids get along with each other basically? I think I would be equally open to a couple who had children and one who didn't.
The most important thing to look for is love among the family members. Visit their home and see how many pictures they have of family members. The more pictures, the better. Also ask them about what happens if you want to know about your child's progress or if the child asks about you. Ask them about their idea of raising kids (they should be strict enough to enforce structure in the child's life but not enough to physically abuse the child). Ask them for examples of their friends with kids they will imitate... and see if you can talk to some of them about their child-raising.
Also ask about their desire for education... a child needs to be given all the chances for good education, but not forced into a particular field.
I don't think race or previous children are a big issue, especially the latter. An older child who is happy and loved will in fact make a great older sibling for your child. And it's extra proof that the adoptive parents will love and nurture your child. It depends on the child and how the parents handle the new baby... remember, they could have a child after adopting your baby too. So don't go by that alone.
Good luck!!
I would want to know if they plan to raise the baby in a certain religion.
When we met our biological family, I don't recall many questions other than ';tell us a bit about yourselves';. That opened up the door for a wonderful conversation between all of us, and it just went beautifully from there. When they asked us to be the parents, we were ecstatic.
I would think if I was making an adoption plan for a child, I would want to know the basics, like how long the couple has been together and what their ideas of parenting would entail.
As for the race, we have many friends who have adopted internationally or children of a different race here in the states. I believe that is one of the beautiful things about our society today - that mixed families are not frowned upon as they were in the past - and it's a beautiful way to introduce new customs and traditions into family life.
Good luck to you. And ';thank you'; for creating an adoption plan for your child. You are giving an amazing gift to someone. Bless you.
The qualities in adoptive parents need be no different from those of biological parents but pls do ask if they would be open to ur having some connection/contact with ur baby later on in life.This is hugely important.The children ,often,show a strong desire later in life to know who their biological parents are.Many adoptive parents are open to this contact but some may not be comfortable with this idea.Best of luck and lots of love to u as u go thru the process of handing ur baby to the adoptive parents.
Financial status of the adoptive parents, their education, ask if they're college grads so they're able to teach your child properly. Race is a big issue, I think.. you want your child to learn from the same culture you grew up it. I agree with you, first time parents will be a better choice for that child.
Here are the questions I would ask:
Why do you want to adopt?
What do you do for a living?
What are your plans for work after the baby? Is one or the other going to stay home? Nanny, daycare?
How many hours a week do you work? (you don't want parents who work 80 hour weeks and have no time for your baby)
Financial capable of supporting a baby?
If they have children, how many? Have they talked to the children about adoptation?
Do they have family support? Grandparents close by, family/friends?
Are they going to tell the baby about being adopted? (Im not sure if you want an open adoption or semi-open or closed ) Will they keep in contact, pics, etc?
Then if you like those, get to know them
Where did you meet?
How long have you been married?
What do you do for hobbies/activities?
What is a way you deal with stress? Alone? Together?
Where do you live?
Make sure that if they check out there, that you go to their house and see where your child will be living, try and meet any family and friends that will be around the baby. This will give you a better idea on who they are. Good Luck!
Every question that has been posed so far is answered in the couples home study. I would ask to see their home study done by a licensed social worker. This is just the first meeting of many provided it goes well. Meet them and get your general feel. If you are like me you'll know after a short period of time whether you want to get to know them further.
Just remember no one is perfect and we all have our faults. You are looking for some one who would be a great parent.
As a side note I would say that I would ask what their intentions would be should the child be born with a deformity or mental deficiency. Are they looking for a perfect child? There is no such thing and at the same time they are all perfect.
Good luck.
What is the best way to persuade your parents to let you have texting?
I want texting really badly, because all my friends have it and my dad won't budge he says cellphones are to call people but none of my friends really talk on the phone they just text all the time. PLEASE HELP I'MDESPERATE!What is the best way to persuade your parents to let you have texting?
Most cell phone companies have addons where you can get like 200 texts a month for an additional $5. Show him that you're responsible and won't break the limit and that'll be a good way to convince him.What is the best way to persuade your parents to let you have texting?
mairi keep on asking 1000 100 1000 13000 times if dad tells you cell phones are to call other phones just get on the computer %26amp; add text messaging to your phone with out asking dad!!! or call your cell phone carrier(singuler, sprint, vzwect) thank you try that %26amp; your dad will let you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hey check out this cool thing called Skype. If you get it too , you can talk top your friends for free. Please make a choice.Already a Skype user? click now files may download if needed click here to get skype or find out more
my skypename is bill.dengler
Get a job so you can pay for it yourself...I don't blame him, texting almost always runs over the monthly limit for most people, and it costs too much.
pay for it yourself
tell him you'll rack up the bill by talking to someone in tokyo for 3 hours.
most carriers charge for sending and getting texts. tell him he is better off getting u texting cause if all ur friends send u texts it will run up the bill
Most cell phone companies have addons where you can get like 200 texts a month for an additional $5. Show him that you're responsible and won't break the limit and that'll be a good way to convince him.What is the best way to persuade your parents to let you have texting?
mairi keep on asking 1000 100 1000 13000 times if dad tells you cell phones are to call other phones just get on the computer %26amp; add text messaging to your phone with out asking dad!!! or call your cell phone carrier(singuler, sprint, vzwect) thank you try that %26amp; your dad will let you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hey check out this cool thing called Skype. If you get it too , you can talk top your friends for free. Please make a choice.Already a Skype user? click now files may download if needed click here to get skype or find out more
my skypename is bill.dengler
Get a job so you can pay for it yourself...I don't blame him, texting almost always runs over the monthly limit for most people, and it costs too much.
pay for it yourself
tell him you'll rack up the bill by talking to someone in tokyo for 3 hours.
most carriers charge for sending and getting texts. tell him he is better off getting u texting cause if all ur friends send u texts it will run up the bill
How do you compare to a siblind or parent?
Do you think genes have anything to do with similarities? Do you think your more different or similar?How do you compare to a siblind or parent?
When it comes to physical traits--yes. mannerisms, yes. to some extent, even your likes and dislikes. But that is more from the way you were raised than genes.
My sister and I used to live 1000 miles apart. we found yourselves often having the same curtains, carpeting, even buying the same clothes. But our personalities are as different as night and day.
When it comes to physical traits--yes. mannerisms, yes. to some extent, even your likes and dislikes. But that is more from the way you were raised than genes.
My sister and I used to live 1000 miles apart. we found yourselves often having the same curtains, carpeting, even buying the same clothes. But our personalities are as different as night and day.
Is there some sort of tax break for parents who send their children to private schools?
Our son is in Public school but we are considering a move to a local Christian private school. The tuition is 5,000 usd a year.Is there some sort of tax break for parents who send their children to private schools?
I don't know, I would talk to an accountant about it. But I do know that our local private school has let parents come in and volunteered and discounted their rates.Is there some sort of tax break for parents who send their children to private schools?
No there is not, but thee is a tax break for others (and a very slight one for you) when the public schools do not have to pay for his education.
The only one that I know of is the Coverdell Savings Program. This allows you to save money in a tax-advantaged way as long as it is used for qualified purposes. It is similar to the 529 plan except it has a maximum of $2,000 per year and it can be used for Private High School instead of just college.
since its christian they will have less trouble getin into a college or university because of the harder scale. also, u will most likely get financial aid in the form of less upfront tuition costs, lunches, etc. u should definatley talk to the superior at the schoolmake up tips
I don't know, I would talk to an accountant about it. But I do know that our local private school has let parents come in and volunteered and discounted their rates.Is there some sort of tax break for parents who send their children to private schools?
No there is not, but thee is a tax break for others (and a very slight one for you) when the public schools do not have to pay for his education.
The only one that I know of is the Coverdell Savings Program. This allows you to save money in a tax-advantaged way as long as it is used for qualified purposes. It is similar to the 529 plan except it has a maximum of $2,000 per year and it can be used for Private High School instead of just college.
since its christian they will have less trouble getin into a college or university because of the harder scale. also, u will most likely get financial aid in the form of less upfront tuition costs, lunches, etc. u should definatley talk to the superior at the school
What concerns do you have as a disabled parent?
I have worked for the State of Arizona for some time and have decided to start a website that will allow parents of disabled children to communicate and share information.
To help parents like yourself, I am trying to find out what problems fears or questions you have about the DD sytem or the future of your disabled child.
A question might be something like, ';How do I know the system is doing the right thing with my child?';
Basicaly I am asking, what information or service do you have a problem with or what need do you have that the government, school or other insitutions are not helping with?
I appreciate your time and your answer!What concerns do you have as a disabled parent?
Other kids teasing my child
Not be able to be physically supportive to my child
I think it is very admiral of you to be concerned enough to ask and to follow through with your web site.What concerns do you have as a disabled parent?
When I read your question, I thought you were talking about parents who are disabled and coping with raising children. Please reword your question so we know you are talking about parents who are raising disabled/handicapped children. BIG DIFFERENCE. Thank you for what you are doing.
To help parents like yourself, I am trying to find out what problems fears or questions you have about the DD sytem or the future of your disabled child.
A question might be something like, ';How do I know the system is doing the right thing with my child?';
Basicaly I am asking, what information or service do you have a problem with or what need do you have that the government, school or other insitutions are not helping with?
I appreciate your time and your answer!What concerns do you have as a disabled parent?
Other kids teasing my child
Not be able to be physically supportive to my child
I think it is very admiral of you to be concerned enough to ask and to follow through with your web site.What concerns do you have as a disabled parent?
When I read your question, I thought you were talking about parents who are disabled and coping with raising children. Please reword your question so we know you are talking about parents who are raising disabled/handicapped children. BIG DIFFERENCE. Thank you for what you are doing.
How do I get a dog if my parents keep on saying no every time?
My parents will not let me get a dog. Itried being responsible that still will not work what should I do?How do I get a dog if my parents keep on saying no every time?
Dont keep bugging and bugging that makes parents angry especially strict parents. But I learned that the hard way lol. Ok anyway go to the library and get as many books about training dogs,dog breeds, etc. Then lay them all over the floor when you get home but everytime you turn a page don't say ';awww look how cute this dog is';. Just study about dogs and leave them all over the house opened. And if you see your parents looking at a book don't interupt them. Just go back to where you were so they don't see you and they put the book down. ANyways hope I helped and if you get your puppy good luck!How do I get a dog if my parents keep on saying no every time?
You're going to have to wait until you move out and are financially able to care for one. There's not much we can say to you if your parents refuse.
I have the same issue and they say no every stinkin time so i will try showing them how i take good care of my other pets if you do the same ( if you have any other pets)
You will probably have to wait till they say yes. Or make them see the sad commercial they did at the animal care thing on tv.
You parents said no because they know you better than we do.
Tell then you would like a hamster, rat or something like that or even a snake maybe that would make your mom think a dog wouldn't be so bad.
take care of a friends dog for a while then they will see you really should.
Sorry but when u pay all the bills and are responsible for everything that parents are responsible for then u can have a dog. What if you go away to college then what's going to happen to your dog??? shelter or what? If your parents dont' want a dog it means that they know how much of a HUGE responsibility dogs are. They last for 15 years...that's a long time and lots of big vet bills and food bills and pooper scooping and staying home when u can't find anyone to watch your dog....etc. I could go on and on but the point is enjoy your life now and volunteer at shelters, spca or whatever is in your area. That'll get u ready for when u are an adult and have your own place and u can get your dog then. It's nothing personal, its just that parents are ultimately responsible for that dog and they dont' want that. Would u let someone push u into doing something u weren't ready to do? I certainly hope not.
Dont keep bugging and bugging that makes parents angry especially strict parents. But I learned that the hard way lol. Ok anyway go to the library and get as many books about training dogs,dog breeds, etc. Then lay them all over the floor when you get home but everytime you turn a page don't say ';awww look how cute this dog is';. Just study about dogs and leave them all over the house opened. And if you see your parents looking at a book don't interupt them. Just go back to where you were so they don't see you and they put the book down. ANyways hope I helped and if you get your puppy good luck!How do I get a dog if my parents keep on saying no every time?
You're going to have to wait until you move out and are financially able to care for one. There's not much we can say to you if your parents refuse.
I have the same issue and they say no every stinkin time so i will try showing them how i take good care of my other pets if you do the same ( if you have any other pets)
You will probably have to wait till they say yes. Or make them see the sad commercial they did at the animal care thing on tv.
You parents said no because they know you better than we do.
Tell then you would like a hamster, rat or something like that or even a snake maybe that would make your mom think a dog wouldn't be so bad.
take care of a friends dog for a while then they will see you really should.
Sorry but when u pay all the bills and are responsible for everything that parents are responsible for then u can have a dog. What if you go away to college then what's going to happen to your dog??? shelter or what? If your parents dont' want a dog it means that they know how much of a HUGE responsibility dogs are. They last for 15 years...that's a long time and lots of big vet bills and food bills and pooper scooping and staying home when u can't find anyone to watch your dog....etc. I could go on and on but the point is enjoy your life now and volunteer at shelters, spca or whatever is in your area. That'll get u ready for when u are an adult and have your own place and u can get your dog then. It's nothing personal, its just that parents are ultimately responsible for that dog and they dont' want that. Would u let someone push u into doing something u weren't ready to do? I certainly hope not.
How to keep a boyfriend secret from your parents?
I have this new boyfriend and my mom says i'm to young to have a boyfriend. I have one anyways and i'm trying to keep it a secret from my parents, I have no clue how to keep him a secret from my mom.How to keep a boyfriend secret from your parents?
Stop trying to grow up too fast!!! I don't know how old you are, but if you are too young to drive you are too young to be in a relationship...at least a serious relationship. If you think this guy is worthy of your time, you should be able to tell your parents. Or, just tell them that he is a friend and stuff and then once they decide they like him, tell them that you want him to be a boyfriend and come up with some ground rules such as a curfew, only hanging out with adults present, etc. If your parents decide they don't like him, it is probably for a good reason. Parents, strict or not, are only looking out for your best interest. Be happy about that because there are a lot of creeps out there.How to keep a boyfriend secret from your parents?
Tell your boyfriend that so that he knows that you guys can only hang around when your parents aren't there. Go on group outings with friends and meet up with him there.
Stop trying to grow up too fast!!! I don't know how old you are, but if you are too young to drive you are too young to be in a relationship...at least a serious relationship. If you think this guy is worthy of your time, you should be able to tell your parents. Or, just tell them that he is a friend and stuff and then once they decide they like him, tell them that you want him to be a boyfriend and come up with some ground rules such as a curfew, only hanging out with adults present, etc. If your parents decide they don't like him, it is probably for a good reason. Parents, strict or not, are only looking out for your best interest. Be happy about that because there are a lot of creeps out there.How to keep a boyfriend secret from your parents?
Tell your boyfriend that so that he knows that you guys can only hang around when your parents aren't there. Go on group outings with friends and meet up with him there.
How do i tell my football coach and parents that I want to quit football?
It is my third year playing football for highschool and i wasnt going to play this year but i decided to (idk why). I am a varsity baseball player with some potential and i want to devote myself to that during the football season. how do i quit the football team?How do i tell my football coach and parents that I want to quit football?
Explain to your coach you are devoted to baseball and lost interest in football. Or the easy way just dont go anymore LOLHow do i tell my football coach and parents that I want to quit football?
Please give this some deep, deep thought before you decide to not play football. I understand that football practice is a tough, grueling time. I quit football after playing for three years as well, and I still regret it to this day. I am now 40, and I sincerely wish I had stuck with playing football in high school. You can never go back, and quitting is forever.
You should really try to stick it out and give it your best. You can still devote time to stay sharp with your baseball skills, but don't miss out on one of the greatest times of your high school life by dropping football.
Just my 2 cents worth. As I said, the memory of ';I wish I had stuck with it'; is STILL with me all these years later.
just tell your coach that you have other things going on. or that you dont feel as committed. or as excited by it anymore.. say you dont feel the passion of it like you used to.
as for your parents maybe just tell them the same. that you want to concentrate on other things, that its your life and its up to you to make the decisions, and make the mistakes,
thats the whole point.
good luck (:
okay tim here's a definite winner and a long shot rolled into one- not for the faint hearted mind.
First you have to build up the scene through a few weeks preparation- seem down and gloomy, depressed, lost in thought, worried- with each day slightly further from their contact. Get their interest piqued and when pressed shrug and say ';nothin';, later say ';i have something wwighing on my mind';, get them all flustered. After a week or two your parents will probably be driven to the point of sitting you down and going nowhere till you answer, you just have to ensure that in their minds they are thinking the worst then come out and say it----- ';i think i might be gay'; adding afterwards in a lower tone ';and i am quitting football';, trust me the latter will pass without comment and you will then have the full confidence from your parents to bring a nice girl home, go to a brothel etc ad nauseum
(screw the coach-eh not literally- what kind of hold or sway can he possibly have on your life! tell him to get lost %26lt;respectfully%26gt;)
Just be honest to your coach and parents. Explain to them why you no longer want to play, and that it's not to your interest anymore/other things have come across you that have taken your interest. Don't worry, I'm sure your coach will understand; it happens. He won't say ';No you can't quit'; or anything. It is your choice after all. :P
By saying to your coach and parents ';I don't want to do football any more, i want to put more of my effort into baseball'; they will understand and if they don't well maybe their pressurising you unnecessarily.
I would say if you already signed up that you have made a commitment you should not break, but if you haven't yet then I would just be straightforward with them and tell them you need to focus on baseball right now.
Good Luck!
say ';Coach...Mom...Dad...Team... I want to become a better baseball player and I am going to have to train a lot more for baseball, so I am not going to be able to play football with y'all anymore. I am sorry.';
just tell them, its up to you what you do not other people, am sorry but i am sick of you americans with no balls too scared to tell your parents you want a peircing or quitin what ever, just do it!!!
is it that big of a deal for everyone? just say you need this year off to relax and really focus on baseball. i think they'll understand that. anyways thers always other to fill your spot.
Tell your parents first that you dont have an interest in it or its not for you anymore and you want to quit. then tell your coach that you arent going to play this year
';Mom, Dad, Coach...I want to quit football.';
Seriously...Tell them all you just think you're better at baseball...and that that is the sport of choice for you...
Its your life...not theirs...
Just tell your parents that, school is more important to you now and your grades are slipping because of football. What can they possible say to that?
Tell him you're dedicated to baseball and it wouldn't be fair to the team if you didn't give it your all.
';I've decided to devote myself to baseball, and leave football.'; How hard is that?
man up. what are they going to do? say no you can't quit. they have no power if you are confident in your choice.
Just tell each you want to focus 100% on baseball, so you are quitting football.
Tell him you want to quit, he won't really care; and if he does then forget him he is not in control of your life.
Just say it.
If they love you, they'll respect your desicion.
I don't believe you ever played any sport.
Two very simple words.
I QUIT.
Say hi and die
mom,dad, i want to do baseball.
b who u are and say wat u feel cuz those who mind dont matter and those who matter wont mind :)
Just say I'm over.
They aren't going to bite you.
do horrible things and then they will fire you
dont sign up
tell em y ur doin it and stick to it
they cant do nethin to u
Explain to your coach you are devoted to baseball and lost interest in football. Or the easy way just dont go anymore LOLHow do i tell my football coach and parents that I want to quit football?
Please give this some deep, deep thought before you decide to not play football. I understand that football practice is a tough, grueling time. I quit football after playing for three years as well, and I still regret it to this day. I am now 40, and I sincerely wish I had stuck with playing football in high school. You can never go back, and quitting is forever.
You should really try to stick it out and give it your best. You can still devote time to stay sharp with your baseball skills, but don't miss out on one of the greatest times of your high school life by dropping football.
Just my 2 cents worth. As I said, the memory of ';I wish I had stuck with it'; is STILL with me all these years later.
just tell your coach that you have other things going on. or that you dont feel as committed. or as excited by it anymore.. say you dont feel the passion of it like you used to.
as for your parents maybe just tell them the same. that you want to concentrate on other things, that its your life and its up to you to make the decisions, and make the mistakes,
thats the whole point.
good luck (:
okay tim here's a definite winner and a long shot rolled into one- not for the faint hearted mind.
First you have to build up the scene through a few weeks preparation- seem down and gloomy, depressed, lost in thought, worried- with each day slightly further from their contact. Get their interest piqued and when pressed shrug and say ';nothin';, later say ';i have something wwighing on my mind';, get them all flustered. After a week or two your parents will probably be driven to the point of sitting you down and going nowhere till you answer, you just have to ensure that in their minds they are thinking the worst then come out and say it----- ';i think i might be gay'; adding afterwards in a lower tone ';and i am quitting football';, trust me the latter will pass without comment and you will then have the full confidence from your parents to bring a nice girl home, go to a brothel etc ad nauseum
(screw the coach-eh not literally- what kind of hold or sway can he possibly have on your life! tell him to get lost %26lt;respectfully%26gt;)
Just be honest to your coach and parents. Explain to them why you no longer want to play, and that it's not to your interest anymore/other things have come across you that have taken your interest. Don't worry, I'm sure your coach will understand; it happens. He won't say ';No you can't quit'; or anything. It is your choice after all. :P
By saying to your coach and parents ';I don't want to do football any more, i want to put more of my effort into baseball'; they will understand and if they don't well maybe their pressurising you unnecessarily.
I would say if you already signed up that you have made a commitment you should not break, but if you haven't yet then I would just be straightforward with them and tell them you need to focus on baseball right now.
Good Luck!
say ';Coach...Mom...Dad...Team... I want to become a better baseball player and I am going to have to train a lot more for baseball, so I am not going to be able to play football with y'all anymore. I am sorry.';
just tell them, its up to you what you do not other people, am sorry but i am sick of you americans with no balls too scared to tell your parents you want a peircing or quitin what ever, just do it!!!
is it that big of a deal for everyone? just say you need this year off to relax and really focus on baseball. i think they'll understand that. anyways thers always other to fill your spot.
Tell your parents first that you dont have an interest in it or its not for you anymore and you want to quit. then tell your coach that you arent going to play this year
';Mom, Dad, Coach...I want to quit football.';
Seriously...Tell them all you just think you're better at baseball...and that that is the sport of choice for you...
Its your life...not theirs...
Just tell your parents that, school is more important to you now and your grades are slipping because of football. What can they possible say to that?
Tell him you're dedicated to baseball and it wouldn't be fair to the team if you didn't give it your all.
';I've decided to devote myself to baseball, and leave football.'; How hard is that?
man up. what are they going to do? say no you can't quit. they have no power if you are confident in your choice.
Just tell each you want to focus 100% on baseball, so you are quitting football.
Tell him you want to quit, he won't really care; and if he does then forget him he is not in control of your life.
Just say it.
If they love you, they'll respect your desicion.
I don't believe you ever played any sport.
Two very simple words.
I QUIT.
Say hi and die
mom,dad, i want to do baseball.
b who u are and say wat u feel cuz those who mind dont matter and those who matter wont mind :)
Just say I'm over.
They aren't going to bite you.
do horrible things and then they will fire you
dont sign up
tell em y ur doin it and stick to it
they cant do nethin to u
My parents won't let me get an itouch 8 gb with my own money. How can i convince them to let me buy one?
I a am a straight A student. I have never gotten in trouble in school. When i ask them about the ipod they say i should be grateful for the ipod i already have. It is an ipod mini that i broke by accident and haven't told them because they would think i did it on purpose.My parents won't let me get an itouch 8 gb with my own money. How can i convince them to let me buy one?
oh lol i just finished saving for my itouch and im getting it tomorrow! lol sorry...
if you earned the money for it by doing chores or working, then explain to them that you ';worked really hard for it'; and blah blah blah. also just tell them about the ipod mini and if you have been trustworthy in the past they will believe that it was an accident.My parents won't let me get an itouch 8 gb with my own money. How can i convince them to let me buy one?
If you have never gotten in trouble, why would they think that you broke your ipod on purpose?
Regardless, you should come clean with them about the ipod mini. Tell the truth about how it broke and even express your concern that they would think you broke it on purpose. Then try to negotiate with them and explain how you are willing to be responsible with your new ipod and what actions you will take to ensure that this one does not break buy getting a protective case and an extended warranty.
The best thing is to be honest with your parents, and tell them the truth. They may get upset, but you know what? They'll get over it. Not right away, maybe, but they will. Tell them when it broke, and that it didn't happen on purpose. They may still tell you that you can't get the 8GB IPod, but, at least they'll know that the one is broken, and maybe get it replaced. I would rather have ANY IPod, rather than none. Talk reasonably to them, and show them that you are trying to act like an adult. But, doing that also means that you accept what your parents tell you. A lot of people will say, ';It's your money, do whatever you want with it.'; That's partly true. Your parents are there to help guide you in your decision making, so let them. Sometimes, they know things that we, as kids, don't. Not that I'm a kid anymore. . . I'm 28, and I still go to my parents for advice on stuff, about everything.
Show your parents that you are growing up, and talk to them like an adult. They may not tell you, but I guarantee that they will be impressed.
if your ipod still work then theres no need to get another one, besides the new futures. Apple corp. is trying to take money from young kids with all these gadgets thats made in china. And it works for most people, dont let them fool you. Technologies comes out fast, and the itouch will soon drop prices. Your mom just trying to teach you how to save money for important occasion. This will also help you when you're on your own, and when you're on your own you will eventually need money more for things you need over the things you want. So that you dont run to people ask for money.
Ok first thing. take a deep breath and relax. Now you know that you are going to get the itouch but the parents are the only hurdle which you need to overcome. I would tell you all things in life are won by a loving attitude. Now you have a mission for a week . For one week just forget the itouch and be patient. Do things to impress your parents. Be very very very good to them. Respect them and their feelings. After one night diner just ask them whats the reason for not allowing? Convince them that you will top in your next term exam. But dont ever disrespect your parents feelings. They must have thought something for your good only. Try your level best to convince them. If they dont allow then just leave it. Dont get upset behind it. There are ,many more things which you are yet to face in life. Be strong! be a man!. If not this then something other. The thing which you are telling that it is your money is partly wrong. You owe all those money to your parents and family only. So better preserve it for future use. I personallly request dont try to overcome your parents. They love you a lot and have done many things in life for you. But also keep your efforts active. Best of luck
If you still live at home and they pay the bills, it's not still your money. It's your money when you're on your own.
Compromise - tell them you understand they don't want you to spend all of your money on a brand new IPOD, so maybe you can try to get one at a pawn shop? Or ask them what they think you should do with your money???
well i got one(which i am on now) great say things like it is educational and i can revise on it and stuf like that. also wash up and do more chores or something ipod touch is great.
get one of your siblings to go out and lose it or something or take it to school and say someone stole it. DO NOT BRING YOU IPOD TOUCH TO SCHOOL THEY WILL GET JACKED
if you wait longer on telling them they will think you did it on purpose. You need to state why you want one because of the broken one and if you have your own money to purchase it then maybe they would be more acomadating to your request when told why you want one.
its your money do what you want with it.. leave ur old ipod on the table and go sommeplace adn they will see it there.. or put it by a chair in the living rm where it will fall rly easily and one of them will knock it down o accident and think that they broke itr:P
hey, i think it's becuase youre parents are either concerened about it or they feel ur not responsible enough, don't worry. have a talk with them. if that doesnt help, then try to prove ur responsible enough.
hope it works
tell them you promise you accidently broke your ipod, and tell them that you really want it and it will make you happy and you will never ask for anything like that again.
you should drop it when your around them and then go I broke it. Then ask them if you can buy yourself a new i-pod. I have the i-pod touch and its amazing. I hope you get it.
Be honest and tell them that you broke them and tell them the entire story. Maybe they think your not ready for an even more expensive ipod. Just wait intill your birthday or Christmas and just drop hints. You may get it without spending your money! :-D
Just tell them you'll get a summer job or somethin and also tell them that u broke ur other iPod on accident! I they dont believe you then i say just throw that one away and go get ur new one by urself
go out and buy it anyways on your own.
AS long as YOU buy it they shouldnt have a
problem, if you already own it when they find out.
go out and buy it and if they have a problem show them this page and they'll see how many people disagree with them !! i mean its Ur money and u saved up for it u should be allowed
You aren't going to convince them because they are trying to teach you something!
If it's your money that you earned on your own, how can they tell you how to spend it? I would just go get one.
Well, mmmm make a deal with them. /if they dont want you to waste your money then just have them pay half of it
i have one it is so good and not like cheap it is worth the money
Tell them it's broke
bash your head into a wall until it bleeds!!
just buy you deserve it
Tell them you'll buy it yoursel.....oh wait
save your money for better things in life ..like gas money
just tell em u broke it...
it your money tell them let you do whatever you weawnt tto do wtih it
just go buy it, it's your money they can't tell you what to do.
oh lol i just finished saving for my itouch and im getting it tomorrow! lol sorry...
if you earned the money for it by doing chores or working, then explain to them that you ';worked really hard for it'; and blah blah blah. also just tell them about the ipod mini and if you have been trustworthy in the past they will believe that it was an accident.My parents won't let me get an itouch 8 gb with my own money. How can i convince them to let me buy one?
If you have never gotten in trouble, why would they think that you broke your ipod on purpose?
Regardless, you should come clean with them about the ipod mini. Tell the truth about how it broke and even express your concern that they would think you broke it on purpose. Then try to negotiate with them and explain how you are willing to be responsible with your new ipod and what actions you will take to ensure that this one does not break buy getting a protective case and an extended warranty.
The best thing is to be honest with your parents, and tell them the truth. They may get upset, but you know what? They'll get over it. Not right away, maybe, but they will. Tell them when it broke, and that it didn't happen on purpose. They may still tell you that you can't get the 8GB IPod, but, at least they'll know that the one is broken, and maybe get it replaced. I would rather have ANY IPod, rather than none. Talk reasonably to them, and show them that you are trying to act like an adult. But, doing that also means that you accept what your parents tell you. A lot of people will say, ';It's your money, do whatever you want with it.'; That's partly true. Your parents are there to help guide you in your decision making, so let them. Sometimes, they know things that we, as kids, don't. Not that I'm a kid anymore. . . I'm 28, and I still go to my parents for advice on stuff, about everything.
Show your parents that you are growing up, and talk to them like an adult. They may not tell you, but I guarantee that they will be impressed.
if your ipod still work then theres no need to get another one, besides the new futures. Apple corp. is trying to take money from young kids with all these gadgets thats made in china. And it works for most people, dont let them fool you. Technologies comes out fast, and the itouch will soon drop prices. Your mom just trying to teach you how to save money for important occasion. This will also help you when you're on your own, and when you're on your own you will eventually need money more for things you need over the things you want. So that you dont run to people ask for money.
Ok first thing. take a deep breath and relax. Now you know that you are going to get the itouch but the parents are the only hurdle which you need to overcome. I would tell you all things in life are won by a loving attitude. Now you have a mission for a week . For one week just forget the itouch and be patient. Do things to impress your parents. Be very very very good to them. Respect them and their feelings. After one night diner just ask them whats the reason for not allowing? Convince them that you will top in your next term exam. But dont ever disrespect your parents feelings. They must have thought something for your good only. Try your level best to convince them. If they dont allow then just leave it. Dont get upset behind it. There are ,many more things which you are yet to face in life. Be strong! be a man!. If not this then something other. The thing which you are telling that it is your money is partly wrong. You owe all those money to your parents and family only. So better preserve it for future use. I personallly request dont try to overcome your parents. They love you a lot and have done many things in life for you. But also keep your efforts active. Best of luck
If you still live at home and they pay the bills, it's not still your money. It's your money when you're on your own.
Compromise - tell them you understand they don't want you to spend all of your money on a brand new IPOD, so maybe you can try to get one at a pawn shop? Or ask them what they think you should do with your money???
well i got one(which i am on now) great say things like it is educational and i can revise on it and stuf like that. also wash up and do more chores or something ipod touch is great.
get one of your siblings to go out and lose it or something or take it to school and say someone stole it. DO NOT BRING YOU IPOD TOUCH TO SCHOOL THEY WILL GET JACKED
if you wait longer on telling them they will think you did it on purpose. You need to state why you want one because of the broken one and if you have your own money to purchase it then maybe they would be more acomadating to your request when told why you want one.
its your money do what you want with it.. leave ur old ipod on the table and go sommeplace adn they will see it there.. or put it by a chair in the living rm where it will fall rly easily and one of them will knock it down o accident and think that they broke itr:P
hey, i think it's becuase youre parents are either concerened about it or they feel ur not responsible enough, don't worry. have a talk with them. if that doesnt help, then try to prove ur responsible enough.
hope it works
tell them you promise you accidently broke your ipod, and tell them that you really want it and it will make you happy and you will never ask for anything like that again.
you should drop it when your around them and then go I broke it. Then ask them if you can buy yourself a new i-pod. I have the i-pod touch and its amazing. I hope you get it.
Be honest and tell them that you broke them and tell them the entire story. Maybe they think your not ready for an even more expensive ipod. Just wait intill your birthday or Christmas and just drop hints. You may get it without spending your money! :-D
Just tell them you'll get a summer job or somethin and also tell them that u broke ur other iPod on accident! I they dont believe you then i say just throw that one away and go get ur new one by urself
go out and buy it anyways on your own.
AS long as YOU buy it they shouldnt have a
problem, if you already own it when they find out.
go out and buy it and if they have a problem show them this page and they'll see how many people disagree with them !! i mean its Ur money and u saved up for it u should be allowed
You aren't going to convince them because they are trying to teach you something!
If it's your money that you earned on your own, how can they tell you how to spend it? I would just go get one.
Well, mmmm make a deal with them. /if they dont want you to waste your money then just have them pay half of it
i have one it is so good and not like cheap it is worth the money
Tell them it's broke
bash your head into a wall until it bleeds!!
just buy you deserve it
Tell them you'll buy it yoursel.....oh wait
save your money for better things in life ..like gas money
just tell em u broke it...
it your money tell them let you do whatever you weawnt tto do wtih it
just go buy it, it's your money they can't tell you what to do.
What is the best potty training book for parents, and for toddlers?
We are currently in the process of introducing potty training to our almost 22 month old, and I would like to find some literature for myself and my husband to read. Does anyone know of any good books for parents? Also we would like to find a picture book for our daughter too. Does anyone have recommendations?What is the best potty training book for parents, and for toddlers?
We used this book when training our daughter (29 months old at the time) and it worked great!
Potty Train in Three Days by Lois Kleint
Umm, I don't agree with the first poster. I had no idea how to potty train and would've royally messed it up if not for some help from this more experience author!What is the best potty training book for parents, and for toddlers?
your brain is the best training book.make up tips
We used this book when training our daughter (29 months old at the time) and it worked great!
Potty Train in Three Days by Lois Kleint
Umm, I don't agree with the first poster. I had no idea how to potty train and would've royally messed it up if not for some help from this more experience author!What is the best potty training book for parents, and for toddlers?
your brain is the best training book.
How do I write a letter for my parents to have guardianship of my daughter?
Can't handle my daugher so my parents are going to take her and enroll her in another school. This might be a temporary situation. They will be responsible for her medical and education.How do I write a letter for my parents to have guardianship of my daughter?
you should call the local court house and ask them..that way you know everything is legal.How do I write a letter for my parents to have guardianship of my daughter?
A letter alone will not work. Your parents need to get a Power of Attorney for your child. I have done this many times for run aways that I have taken into my home and needed to insure. If you can get a lawyer good, if not check on the internet. Good luck and I do hope your life gets better for you in the future.
you should call the local court house and ask them..that way you know everything is legal.How do I write a letter for my parents to have guardianship of my daughter?
A letter alone will not work. Your parents need to get a Power of Attorney for your child. I have done this many times for run aways that I have taken into my home and needed to insure. If you can get a lawyer good, if not check on the internet. Good luck and I do hope your life gets better for you in the future.
My parents want to sign over their home to my brother and I. What do we need to do and will there be problems
Parents are both 65, the home is paid for, they will continue to pay the property taxes and insurance. They want to do this in case they are put in a nursing home.My parents want to sign over their home to my brother and I. What do we need to do and will there be problems
Check with an estate plan attorney. Property taxes will increase because they are now getting a discount because of their age. But there are other issues that an attorney can explain to you.My parents want to sign over their home to my brother and I. What do we need to do and will there be problems
Your parents should put the property in to a Living Trust, and assign a conservator to take charge of their affairs should they become incapable. In doing so, it will minimize taxes, legal costs, stress and heartache for all. You may consider consulting an attorney that specializes in estate law, or there are D.I.Y. trust kits. In any case, don't confuse a trust with a ';will';, or ';living will';. While a ';will'; can effect the transfer of property, it does not protect the estate from taxes, or probate, and a ';living will'; has nothing to do with property, a living will is a document that states a persons life choice in the event they become incapable of communicating either physically, or mentally whether or not they wish to live or die if on life support.
I understand why they would want to do this transfer.
You should check with an estate planner there might be a better way of doing this and achieving the same objective.
A consultation with an estate planner should be free for the first appointment. Also at that time you should ask the estate planner what cost would be involved for their services, if you decide to use them.
After seeing an estate planner you can make an intelligent decision as to if you want to do this transfer or not.
Before doing this transfer you might want to check with your tax consultant to find out any tax consequences that might affect the trnsfer.
If you still want to do this transfer, look in the telephone book and locate a title company. Call them, tell them you have a family transfer that you would like to make from parents to children.
While they are on the telephone ask the cost for their service, It should not be a lot perhaps less than $50.00 or so.
They will set up an appointment for you and your parents to come in and sign all the necessary paper work to accomplish the transfer. They will have a notary on staff that will take care of the notary requirements.
The title company will also make sure that the deeds and other necessary documents are recorded at the county recorders office in the county where the property is located.
Going through a title company will perhaps save a few potential legal problems down the road.
Make sure the title company send you and your brother a copy of all the deeds and other documents you were required to sign.
I hope this has been of some use to you, good luck.
';FIGHT ON';
Well if it happens within 3-5 years of the occurrence, the transfer can be undone. So you're saying they want to transfer the property to you and your brother and make the state pay for their care rather than paying for it themselves with their own assets????
They need to sign a QuitClaim Deed to you and your brother and it needs to be recorded. It may be exempt from transfer tax. You and your brother will likely have some gift tax liability as they are only permitted to give each of you $10-12,000 annually.
They should have Health Care Power of Attorney and Living Will forms executed. Very Important.
You want to double check in an attorney in your state to verify the best way to do it so you don't have to worry about estate taxes or want not. If they do put it in you name they have to chance the homeowners insurance to your names, they can still pay it but it can't be in their names if they do not own the home. Same thing with the taxes.. the tax department will automatically put your names on the tax bill but they don't care who pays it as long as it gets paid. What you want to do seems fine but I would double check with an attorney so you know the exact legality of what your doing and how it may effect you.
Each state allows a parent to ';gift'; their child(ren) each year a specific value, without an income tax implication. For example, $l6,000.00 per year per child. Check this out with a knowledgeable person/attorney.
In my State, if parents are put in a nursing home and no longer have real estate as an asset, the State will check the County records back three years for transfers of assets. If there are those type of transfers within the 3 year period, then the State will not pick up the tab, because they know that the transfer of real property was made to avoid nursing home bills.
The other answers about house insurance and property tax problems are correct too.
make sure you have some papers drawn up stating that each of you are in 50/50 and if any upkeep is to be done it must be in total agreement.I had some friends who had a ';family ';house and the brother totally made the house unliveable knocking down walls without his sisters approval or knowledge, and with no paperwork showing she was part owner there was nothing she could do. Good Luck.
call your tax person! not a H%26amp;R block person either, call someone in your area called an Enrolled Agent pay them the hourly rate and hear what they have to say, ask them about a living will and dont do anything until you have talked to them trust me, they are the TAX gods of the the tax world, and trust me it will be a tax issue if you dont handle it right.
learn to share you obviously are stuck up and don't know how many people live on the street you have a free home offered and your spending 5 points asking this question when you should be going with your brother and parents to sign an agreement to take the house.
Call an attorney immediately. In most states, it's better for your parents to will the house to you rather sign it over. It can make a HUGE tax difference.
You will need to go to a lawyer and have everything legally set up, otherwise probate court will take it all away after their deaths.
THIS IS A DUMB idea. Especially for the reasons given.
Your parents are losing ALL control on the house. The kids will have total contract and ownership. DO NOT DO THIS%26gt;
Dookey all up on yo' leg and smooth that leg out!
Den do a African spell to make you pleaseant at this moment in time!
honey, you need to take dat home so you aint livin on da street like me.
Kill brother and all will be good.
Check with an estate plan attorney. Property taxes will increase because they are now getting a discount because of their age. But there are other issues that an attorney can explain to you.My parents want to sign over their home to my brother and I. What do we need to do and will there be problems
Your parents should put the property in to a Living Trust, and assign a conservator to take charge of their affairs should they become incapable. In doing so, it will minimize taxes, legal costs, stress and heartache for all. You may consider consulting an attorney that specializes in estate law, or there are D.I.Y. trust kits. In any case, don't confuse a trust with a ';will';, or ';living will';. While a ';will'; can effect the transfer of property, it does not protect the estate from taxes, or probate, and a ';living will'; has nothing to do with property, a living will is a document that states a persons life choice in the event they become incapable of communicating either physically, or mentally whether or not they wish to live or die if on life support.
I understand why they would want to do this transfer.
You should check with an estate planner there might be a better way of doing this and achieving the same objective.
A consultation with an estate planner should be free for the first appointment. Also at that time you should ask the estate planner what cost would be involved for their services, if you decide to use them.
After seeing an estate planner you can make an intelligent decision as to if you want to do this transfer or not.
Before doing this transfer you might want to check with your tax consultant to find out any tax consequences that might affect the trnsfer.
If you still want to do this transfer, look in the telephone book and locate a title company. Call them, tell them you have a family transfer that you would like to make from parents to children.
While they are on the telephone ask the cost for their service, It should not be a lot perhaps less than $50.00 or so.
They will set up an appointment for you and your parents to come in and sign all the necessary paper work to accomplish the transfer. They will have a notary on staff that will take care of the notary requirements.
The title company will also make sure that the deeds and other necessary documents are recorded at the county recorders office in the county where the property is located.
Going through a title company will perhaps save a few potential legal problems down the road.
Make sure the title company send you and your brother a copy of all the deeds and other documents you were required to sign.
I hope this has been of some use to you, good luck.
';FIGHT ON';
Well if it happens within 3-5 years of the occurrence, the transfer can be undone. So you're saying they want to transfer the property to you and your brother and make the state pay for their care rather than paying for it themselves with their own assets????
They need to sign a QuitClaim Deed to you and your brother and it needs to be recorded. It may be exempt from transfer tax. You and your brother will likely have some gift tax liability as they are only permitted to give each of you $10-12,000 annually.
They should have Health Care Power of Attorney and Living Will forms executed. Very Important.
You want to double check in an attorney in your state to verify the best way to do it so you don't have to worry about estate taxes or want not. If they do put it in you name they have to chance the homeowners insurance to your names, they can still pay it but it can't be in their names if they do not own the home. Same thing with the taxes.. the tax department will automatically put your names on the tax bill but they don't care who pays it as long as it gets paid. What you want to do seems fine but I would double check with an attorney so you know the exact legality of what your doing and how it may effect you.
Each state allows a parent to ';gift'; their child(ren) each year a specific value, without an income tax implication. For example, $l6,000.00 per year per child. Check this out with a knowledgeable person/attorney.
In my State, if parents are put in a nursing home and no longer have real estate as an asset, the State will check the County records back three years for transfers of assets. If there are those type of transfers within the 3 year period, then the State will not pick up the tab, because they know that the transfer of real property was made to avoid nursing home bills.
The other answers about house insurance and property tax problems are correct too.
make sure you have some papers drawn up stating that each of you are in 50/50 and if any upkeep is to be done it must be in total agreement.I had some friends who had a ';family ';house and the brother totally made the house unliveable knocking down walls without his sisters approval or knowledge, and with no paperwork showing she was part owner there was nothing she could do. Good Luck.
call your tax person! not a H%26amp;R block person either, call someone in your area called an Enrolled Agent pay them the hourly rate and hear what they have to say, ask them about a living will and dont do anything until you have talked to them trust me, they are the TAX gods of the the tax world, and trust me it will be a tax issue if you dont handle it right.
learn to share you obviously are stuck up and don't know how many people live on the street you have a free home offered and your spending 5 points asking this question when you should be going with your brother and parents to sign an agreement to take the house.
Call an attorney immediately. In most states, it's better for your parents to will the house to you rather sign it over. It can make a HUGE tax difference.
You will need to go to a lawyer and have everything legally set up, otherwise probate court will take it all away after their deaths.
THIS IS A DUMB idea. Especially for the reasons given.
Your parents are losing ALL control on the house. The kids will have total contract and ownership. DO NOT DO THIS%26gt;
Dookey all up on yo' leg and smooth that leg out!
Den do a African spell to make you pleaseant at this moment in time!
honey, you need to take dat home so you aint livin on da street like me.
Kill brother and all will be good.
What Should I do To prove to my parents that I can take care of a bunny?
I really want a bunny but my parents wont let me, they say that i need to prove myself responsible. what do i do to prove that?What Should I do To prove to my parents that I can take care of a bunny?
Just so you know, rabbits are A LOT more work than most traditional pets. When people say they are an ';easy pet,'; it is a huge misconception.
I only have one bunny, but I have a very lengthy care routine that must be carried out everyday.
He eats four cups of freshly chopped veggies every morning with unlimited hay (you must rotate at least 3 types of bunny-safe veggies a day to ensure he gets all the necissary vitamins) and his water needs to be changed regularly.
His litterbox must be cleaned daily because the ammonia will damage his lungs (not to mention accidents- bunnies are really messy)
I have to groom him every other day since he is long-haired and clip his nails once a month.
He needs a hutch/cage that needs to be cleaned and maintained weekly.
He has a bunny proof room (as all should- do not keep them locked in cages!!!). We have playtime and rotate toys daily.
He needs regular vet checks to ensure healthy teeth and GI.
The list goes on....
Now, my bunny Linus is one of my most favorite pets, but even as an single adult, I have trouble finding enough time to care for his basic needs. Perhaps your parents are right. Unless they are willing to help with the care of the bunny, you may have more than you can handle, and one should not get a pet unless they can offer it the best quality life.
As for convincing your parents, buy SEVERAL good quality rabbit books that cover everything from health to basic care. Read them through until you are an expert on the subject. Consider if you still want the enormous responsibility.
Then sit down with your parents and tell them everything this lovely new pet will entail and work out a comprimise.
Good luck!!!
~AnnieWhat Should I do To prove to my parents that I can take care of a bunny?
if they said that then ask them how to do itif they wont tell you.
if there is a family pet take some of that responsibility
clean your room
always do what you are told
oh and last summer after i got a giune pig i thought i wwas ready but owning a pet is a lot of work (a rabbit is even more work thana guine pig) and i know you have heard that from your parents but until i got a guine pig i had no clue how much work.
try to get your parents to let you ';test drive'; a freind rabiit hamster gerbil guine pig or soemthing like that for a week or see and then reavaluate your readiness for a pet.
when i was aiming for a guine pig last year i probably would have ignored this if someone told it to me saying i was ready for the responsibility but be careful oh if you do get one make sure you get the care sheet from your ocal petsmart and save yourself $50 and buy food and bedding from walmart. i boought everything from petsmart for guine pig and cost $80 when i could have but what had to be bught at petsmart for $30 (guine pig and water bottle and chew sticks) and bought the rest for $15 at walmart
You could start researching the breeds and which one you like best. Also you could find out the cost of a rabbit per month and start saving the money for a hutch, rabbit, food, etc. I hope this helps! Good Luck!
Just so you know, rabbits are A LOT more work than most traditional pets. When people say they are an ';easy pet,'; it is a huge misconception.
I only have one bunny, but I have a very lengthy care routine that must be carried out everyday.
He eats four cups of freshly chopped veggies every morning with unlimited hay (you must rotate at least 3 types of bunny-safe veggies a day to ensure he gets all the necissary vitamins) and his water needs to be changed regularly.
His litterbox must be cleaned daily because the ammonia will damage his lungs (not to mention accidents- bunnies are really messy)
I have to groom him every other day since he is long-haired and clip his nails once a month.
He needs a hutch/cage that needs to be cleaned and maintained weekly.
He has a bunny proof room (as all should- do not keep them locked in cages!!!). We have playtime and rotate toys daily.
He needs regular vet checks to ensure healthy teeth and GI.
The list goes on....
Now, my bunny Linus is one of my most favorite pets, but even as an single adult, I have trouble finding enough time to care for his basic needs. Perhaps your parents are right. Unless they are willing to help with the care of the bunny, you may have more than you can handle, and one should not get a pet unless they can offer it the best quality life.
As for convincing your parents, buy SEVERAL good quality rabbit books that cover everything from health to basic care. Read them through until you are an expert on the subject. Consider if you still want the enormous responsibility.
Then sit down with your parents and tell them everything this lovely new pet will entail and work out a comprimise.
Good luck!!!
~AnnieWhat Should I do To prove to my parents that I can take care of a bunny?
if they said that then ask them how to do itif they wont tell you.
if there is a family pet take some of that responsibility
clean your room
always do what you are told
oh and last summer after i got a giune pig i thought i wwas ready but owning a pet is a lot of work (a rabbit is even more work thana guine pig) and i know you have heard that from your parents but until i got a guine pig i had no clue how much work.
try to get your parents to let you ';test drive'; a freind rabiit hamster gerbil guine pig or soemthing like that for a week or see and then reavaluate your readiness for a pet.
when i was aiming for a guine pig last year i probably would have ignored this if someone told it to me saying i was ready for the responsibility but be careful oh if you do get one make sure you get the care sheet from your ocal petsmart and save yourself $50 and buy food and bedding from walmart. i boought everything from petsmart for guine pig and cost $80 when i could have but what had to be bught at petsmart for $30 (guine pig and water bottle and chew sticks) and bought the rest for $15 at walmart
You could start researching the breeds and which one you like best. Also you could find out the cost of a rabbit per month and start saving the money for a hutch, rabbit, food, etc. I hope this helps! Good Luck!
What are your legal rights as a parent after a seperation in the state of Florida?
My wife and I seperated about two weeks ago and she moved out of the house to live with her parents she took our 6 year old daughter with her.. I never told her that she had to leave but she left anyways... does anyone know what my legal rights are as far as seeing my daughter and providing for her. I will be talking to a lawyer soon but would like to get an idea from anyone that has gone through this. Any good advice will be gladly taken.What are your legal rights as a parent after a seperation in the state of Florida?
I'm sorry to hear about this. Separations and Divorce are the most painful experiences a couple can go through. Now, let's do some background information here. You are the child's father so you do have rights. To a certain extent. I am not an attorney but this is how it may go. You do still need to care for them both financially....you can not be a dead beat dad. If you are the one solely responsible for the separation and your spouse was the victim...then you do owe them both! Your spouse is the one now who may be in charge of all decision making especially if she is the one caring day and night for your child's basic needs and emotional needs. You as the father do have rights, she does have to still consult things with you over your daughter but again, if she was responsible for the separation, then you both will jointly have every right in decision making over your child. Unfortunately, she is the mom and the courts appoint the children to the mom. However, if you as the father is responsible for the rupture and if there is evidence and good reason for grounds of a divorce, you do have rights to see your child but it may be that you have to go over first through your spouse. She would be the person who is calling all the shots now. You may be at her mercy. For the sake of the well being of the child, if your spouse has agreed or is willing to stay friends with you for her sake, then at least you are dealing with a good spouse still and the child's emotional state will be unharmed as much as possible.
Sorry long information but best of luck!
I'm sorry to hear about this. Separations and Divorce are the most painful experiences a couple can go through. Now, let's do some background information here. You are the child's father so you do have rights. To a certain extent. I am not an attorney but this is how it may go. You do still need to care for them both financially....you can not be a dead beat dad. If you are the one solely responsible for the separation and your spouse was the victim...then you do owe them both! Your spouse is the one now who may be in charge of all decision making especially if she is the one caring day and night for your child's basic needs and emotional needs. You as the father do have rights, she does have to still consult things with you over your daughter but again, if she was responsible for the separation, then you both will jointly have every right in decision making over your child. Unfortunately, she is the mom and the courts appoint the children to the mom. However, if you as the father is responsible for the rupture and if there is evidence and good reason for grounds of a divorce, you do have rights to see your child but it may be that you have to go over first through your spouse. She would be the person who is calling all the shots now. You may be at her mercy. For the sake of the well being of the child, if your spouse has agreed or is willing to stay friends with you for her sake, then at least you are dealing with a good spouse still and the child's emotional state will be unharmed as much as possible.
Sorry long information but best of luck!
The best parenting resource?
What is the best resource you found as a new parent? Website? Book? Person? and why?The best parenting resource?
La Leche League, most of our parent/child groups (play group, junior book club, parent/child yoga, etc.), and anything by Dr. Sears have all helped me. Of course, maternal instinct prevails in the end.The best parenting resource?
The books by Drs Sears regarding attachment parenting, and the book, ';Parenting with Love and Logic'; regarding helping your children to learn via natural consequences.
My mum's %26amp; kids' group - a book could never have taught me what I learned from other mothers.
Relatives that have been through it already were the best resource.
The Bible. Because it is everything I need to know to live a life pleasing to God. Both me and my husband feel the same way. We also have found that other parents are helpful (well some of them).
i think the best parenting resources are watching other parents and deciding what you think will work and what won't. i also pick my grannies mind a lot (she had 7 kids), i figure she knows a thing or two. regardless of what type of parenting resources there are, i don't think any one or two is suited for every parent. i think parenting is a trail and error experiment. what works for one might not work for another. also what works today might not work tomorrow. i think you just draw in information from every where and try to process it to best fit your situation. if it works, great, if not well you try something different.
My mom (gee, I miss her, she died when our son was four) - and my three older sisters, who all have kids.
Dr. Spock (yes the old old geezer, his original book is still a good emergency resource) and Dr. Mom were my books of reference. Didn't have the internet when child was small.
La Leche League, most of our parent/child groups (play group, junior book club, parent/child yoga, etc.), and anything by Dr. Sears have all helped me. Of course, maternal instinct prevails in the end.The best parenting resource?
The books by Drs Sears regarding attachment parenting, and the book, ';Parenting with Love and Logic'; regarding helping your children to learn via natural consequences.
My mum's %26amp; kids' group - a book could never have taught me what I learned from other mothers.
Relatives that have been through it already were the best resource.
The Bible. Because it is everything I need to know to live a life pleasing to God. Both me and my husband feel the same way. We also have found that other parents are helpful (well some of them).
i think the best parenting resources are watching other parents and deciding what you think will work and what won't. i also pick my grannies mind a lot (she had 7 kids), i figure she knows a thing or two. regardless of what type of parenting resources there are, i don't think any one or two is suited for every parent. i think parenting is a trail and error experiment. what works for one might not work for another. also what works today might not work tomorrow. i think you just draw in information from every where and try to process it to best fit your situation. if it works, great, if not well you try something different.
My mom (gee, I miss her, she died when our son was four) - and my three older sisters, who all have kids.
Dr. Spock (yes the old old geezer, his original book is still a good emergency resource) and Dr. Mom were my books of reference. Didn't have the internet when child was small.
Parents of preschoolers: How structured is your day?
I have 2 preschoolers and a new baby on the way. I'm nesting a little bit, and I'm feeling very unorganized. How structured is your day with your preschooler?
Some days I feel like planning EVERYTHING, like I would in the classroom (I used to be a teacher). But when I do that, I feel like we have no freedom to just hang out and relax and just color if we feel like it. So a lot of days I just end up planning nothing and not really doing anything either. We don't even have a consistant naptime anymore! I'm trying to find a good balance.
So how much of your day with your preschooler is planned?Parents of preschoolers: How structured is your day?
My day has a routine, not a plan.
We get up, eat breakfast, have a little TV time while I fix breakfast and get myselft together, we play, we go out, we have lunch, we rest, we play again, then a little bit more of TV/video time while I fix dinner, then it's play with daddy, snack, bedtime routine.
I find that it is more of a predictable pattern than a structured routine - but it works. It's enough of a schedule that I know what is going on, but it offers lots of flexibility to adjust to their moods.
Sometimes during ';play'; we'll do a craft. Sometimes I play with the kids, sometimes they play on their own. It all depends on what is going on. When we go out, it can be something ';fun'; or it can be the grocery store.
And I don't worry about sticking to it if something comes up.Parents of preschoolers: How structured is your day?
Unfortunately, for me, none of it is...the summer has been very hard on my schedule from the older kids staying up late and the youngest one refusing to be outdone...once school starts, things will get a little better for me, hopefully for you too
Good luck!
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Some days I feel like planning EVERYTHING, like I would in the classroom (I used to be a teacher). But when I do that, I feel like we have no freedom to just hang out and relax and just color if we feel like it. So a lot of days I just end up planning nothing and not really doing anything either. We don't even have a consistant naptime anymore! I'm trying to find a good balance.
So how much of your day with your preschooler is planned?Parents of preschoolers: How structured is your day?
My day has a routine, not a plan.
We get up, eat breakfast, have a little TV time while I fix breakfast and get myselft together, we play, we go out, we have lunch, we rest, we play again, then a little bit more of TV/video time while I fix dinner, then it's play with daddy, snack, bedtime routine.
I find that it is more of a predictable pattern than a structured routine - but it works. It's enough of a schedule that I know what is going on, but it offers lots of flexibility to adjust to their moods.
Sometimes during ';play'; we'll do a craft. Sometimes I play with the kids, sometimes they play on their own. It all depends on what is going on. When we go out, it can be something ';fun'; or it can be the grocery store.
And I don't worry about sticking to it if something comes up.Parents of preschoolers: How structured is your day?
Unfortunately, for me, none of it is...the summer has been very hard on my schedule from the older kids staying up late and the youngest one refusing to be outdone...once school starts, things will get a little better for me, hopefully for you too
Good luck!
;)
Parents with two or more children: Do you honestly have a favorite child?
I know that the politically correct answer is to say that you love all of your children equally. I am curious if this is always necessarily true.
Honestly speaking, do you have a favorite child or any children of your own that you prefer over another?Parents with two or more children: Do you honestly have a favorite child?
Christy, while I love my children with all my heart (as Zilla said, maternally) I don't love my kids equally -- I love them *differently.* They are individuals with their own strengths and weaknesses, and with personalities that vary widely.
Some of these differences are more *in tune* with my own personality, so this provides a common bond with a particular child in a specific area. Of course, this is true with each child.
My oldest son is a bit of a comedian, so his sense of humor and quick wit is endearing to me. What's not to love about someone who makes you laugh? I can't crack a joke to save my life, so my son shows me the sunny side of everything.
My middle boy is responsible, well-mannered, polite, and charming. Also, he can fix anything. I love that he can take care of things around the house, and that he enjoys doing it. He's well loved and admired by his brothers and I.
My youngest is a carbon-copy of his mother -- quiet and serious, thin-skinned and easily hurt. It's this sameness that forms a wedge between us -- we're too much alike-- but the ability to talk about anything draws us close.
Just as each leaf on a tree is different, so are my children. They are individual and unique, making it impossible to love them equally, but possible to love them for who they are, in a special, treasured way.Parents with two or more children: Do you honestly have a favorite child?
Thank you, Christy.
((((((((((Christy))))))))))
Well like you said, a good mother wont choose favorites, but there are times yes that you will want to. I mean there are sometimes that you like one child over another. Just cause of their actions or attitudes, some of them are better then the other child. But NEVER say that you like so and so better, cause then he/she will think that you don't love them or there will be a thought that you like so and so better then them. And jealousy will come about. and you don't want that trust me. But all and all sometimes moms and dads do have a favorite, but they keep it to themselves, so they don't hurt anyones feelings.
I can honestly say that I do not have a favorite child. I do have favorite ages and stages of childhood that they will all go through but not a favorite child. When one is throwing a tantrum and the other is being a sweetheart, you can guess which behavior I prefer. That doesn't mean I prefer one child over the other though. They are both different and unique and I love everything about both of them.
I have two sons that are 6 years apart and I have to say there are things about one or the other that I really like and there are things about both that I don't care for.
It is true that you love your children in different ways, I do not have a favorite.
I had three siblings and I have to say that I felt that I was my mom's favorite when I was growing up. As an adult I still feel like she liked me more than the others. When my sister and I talk about this she tells me that she always thought I was my mom's favorite. My mom is dead so it's not like we can ask her so maybe it just depends on the parent.
Honestly, I don't have a favorite. I truly love them all equally. They all have their strengths and weaknesses just as DH and I have strengths and weaknesses. Sure I love things about them that stand out as unique, but if I had to choose one to give away or something, there's no way I could do that. I'd rather die myself than have to choose one over another that way.
No favorite. I guess I did when they were say 20 months and 3 months. My favorite was the older one My son(the baby at the time) was a huge handful for me until Id say he was 6 months. Severely colic and I was bitter because he required so much of me, I felt like I was being taken away from my daughter . Feel guilty? Yes,however at the time I was going through severe depression. But when we both got passed that, Id say he was several months old, they both had just as much love. I love them for different reasons in some ways and prefer one over the other is different settings. Ex. Its much easier to shop with my son. They are 6 and 7 now and both are genuinely loved equally.
i try to love all of my children equally, but sometimes I catch myself favoring one over the other. now usually, this is one of the kids getting to do something or have something the other ones don't. this may be due to the fact the first child did something without being asked (chore or something like that) which the other kids can't see the logic in rewarding good behavior and will play the ';you love so and so more than me'; this happened with me growing up and my three brothers and it happens with my four kids. I personally think this is something genetic lol
I wouldn't say that my son is my ';favorite';,but we are a lot closer than I am with my daughters.Yes I love all my children,but I just prefer being around my son more on a social level.We are extremely close for being mother and son.
I enjoy all my children's company,but my son is more fun and honest
with me.
No. Both my children are different from one another. They both have things that are unique to them that I couldn't live without. My son is so laid back and easy going. He is so smart and I love the way he thinks and looks at things. He is just so smart for his age that it makes me laugh. My daughter reminds me of me. She is a character. She is so easily amused (like her mother) and loves to make you laugh. So I truly love both my kids equally. I love them for different reasons, but I couldn't pick one over the other. They are my babies. I love them and I like them both. =)
i have a 5 year old boy and a 4 year old girl,
and i can truely say i love them both equaly,
they have very different personalities,
and sometimes i like ones attitude better than another,
but all in all i love them for ther differences!
they arent perfect but i wouldnt change a thing about them!
i love how they have their own oppinion, i love how they have strong personalities and i love how they challenge me on things!
... why do you ask?
All parents with more than one child love their children in different ways. My mom loves me in a different way then she loves my brother because my brother and I are not the same person. This doesn't mean that she favors one over the other or loves one more than the other. She loves us both the same amount, just in different ways.
I have one child and one on the way and I can't imagine loving one more than I love the other.
I can honestly say, it may depend on what day it is!
You love your kids the same but some days one will drive you to the brink of madness and another won't so guess who you'd rather be with?
My kids are all very different and individual. I don't have a favorite but just like in life you find some easier to spend time with or do certain things with.
You just learn what each child enjoys and then try to join them in that.
No, I do not have a favorite... Sometimes one or more children are 'easier' than another, but I honestly love them all the same.
I like this saying: ';I have heard that you love your kids on different planes for different reasons, but the plane is all the same size.';
i'm a mom of a 2 1/2 yr old and one on the way and I often wonder if i'll favor my first born over the second baby I doubt it tho lol ... although when I was young my brother and sister (older by 11 and 8 years) always said I was the favorite but as I saw it then they would get something and I would get something but once I hit my teens my dad got a really good job we moved to FL and I started seeing that my mom did everything for me.. my brother and sister didn't live with us anymore by then they were adults and on their own. I got a car (hand me down from my mom) and other things. Me and my mom were really close then. Now it's all about my sister partly i think b/c she has been throwing fits about me for years ...we're all adults now with kids and living with our spouses ... but yeah I think parents can have favorites
my son is 8 now and has asked me, when the new baby comes, who will be the favorite. (what do you say?) So I told him ';well, you're my favorite 8 year old';. ';The baby will be my favorite baby.'; We read the book about the 8 little bears who ask their mom the same question and she pulls the same diplomatic answer I used.
I honestly don't know how else to answer the question...
No,I do not have favorite.Each child is different and each have a special quality about them.
Favoring one child over the other(s) can really hurt the other child(ren) and damage the sibling relationship.
Love your children equally and ,pay equal attention to them.
I do NOT have a favorite..There is no way I could..I love them both equally..my children are 3 and 2...their both boys..yes they have differences in them but their is no way I could ever have a favorite.. we want 3-5 more children..no matter how many kids I have I will NEVER have a favorite!
I don't. My basic, maternal love for each of them is the same. But there are different things about each of them that make me love them even more. My son, for instance, for his sense of humor. My elder daughter for her intelligence. (They're all 3 intelligent, but she's one of those brainiacs.) My younger daughter's sharp tongue and take no prisoners attitude. Lol. She's a pistol. These aren't the only things, just examples :)
Edit: I think (((Sips)))) has expressed it perfectly :P
No, I only have one child, that I know of, lol. He's my pride and joy, but I don't think that children or grand children should be favourites. By the way I have 2 sisters and a brother, who thinks he's the favourite, but little does he know.
honestly i cant say i have a favorite but i have one that amuses me more then the other 2. she is just a whole different soul then the other two. i cant say she is my favorite cause they all seem to amaze me she is just the one that sticks out out of the 3 girls.
I have 2 boys and I do not love them equally - I love them uniquely.
Each of them have their own way of being, each their own strengths and weaknesses and their own way of seeing the world. I love them differently but completely.
Father of boys (nearly 8, other 6) and daughter (4).
I love 'em all and have no favorites. They're each unique with their own foibles, quirks, genius and talent. All are unequal in many ways, but in my eyes they run neck%26amp;neck.
(((((Christy))))) (((((Crazy)))))
Yes, I have a favorite.
But the thing is, it changes. Depends on what stages they're in and so on.
And of course it doesn't mean you love one less. I love them both the same. Some people over think this question, lol.
As of yet, I don't have a favorite, no. But then again my children are still pretty young. My oldest is 5 and my youngest is 9 months. Although I do tend to favor whichever child is being less fussy.
i have only one so far.but i know that first usually more close to parents.I m youngest in my family and I know my mom love my brother more.
to me she always been to strict.
I only have one but I know I am my mom and dad's favorite, my brother is a tool!!
Granted we are both adults now so this realization which came to light 3 years ago has no affect on the people we are now!!
No. And when I see other parents grossly favor one child over another, it pisses me off.
No, I really do love them both equally, but sometimes the baby is a breath of fresh air from my 3 yr old and vice versa.
at tome i do but not all the time. you know when the two of them want to do something stupid and th other doesn't thats when.
I honestly don't have a favorite child.
I love my two girls (15 and 17) equally but there are some things I favour in one and other things I favour in the other.
Honestly speaking, do you have a favorite child or any children of your own that you prefer over another?Parents with two or more children: Do you honestly have a favorite child?
Christy, while I love my children with all my heart (as Zilla said, maternally) I don't love my kids equally -- I love them *differently.* They are individuals with their own strengths and weaknesses, and with personalities that vary widely.
Some of these differences are more *in tune* with my own personality, so this provides a common bond with a particular child in a specific area. Of course, this is true with each child.
My oldest son is a bit of a comedian, so his sense of humor and quick wit is endearing to me. What's not to love about someone who makes you laugh? I can't crack a joke to save my life, so my son shows me the sunny side of everything.
My middle boy is responsible, well-mannered, polite, and charming. Also, he can fix anything. I love that he can take care of things around the house, and that he enjoys doing it. He's well loved and admired by his brothers and I.
My youngest is a carbon-copy of his mother -- quiet and serious, thin-skinned and easily hurt. It's this sameness that forms a wedge between us -- we're too much alike-- but the ability to talk about anything draws us close.
Just as each leaf on a tree is different, so are my children. They are individual and unique, making it impossible to love them equally, but possible to love them for who they are, in a special, treasured way.Parents with two or more children: Do you honestly have a favorite child?
Thank you, Christy.
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Well like you said, a good mother wont choose favorites, but there are times yes that you will want to. I mean there are sometimes that you like one child over another. Just cause of their actions or attitudes, some of them are better then the other child. But NEVER say that you like so and so better, cause then he/she will think that you don't love them or there will be a thought that you like so and so better then them. And jealousy will come about. and you don't want that trust me. But all and all sometimes moms and dads do have a favorite, but they keep it to themselves, so they don't hurt anyones feelings.
I can honestly say that I do not have a favorite child. I do have favorite ages and stages of childhood that they will all go through but not a favorite child. When one is throwing a tantrum and the other is being a sweetheart, you can guess which behavior I prefer. That doesn't mean I prefer one child over the other though. They are both different and unique and I love everything about both of them.
I have two sons that are 6 years apart and I have to say there are things about one or the other that I really like and there are things about both that I don't care for.
It is true that you love your children in different ways, I do not have a favorite.
I had three siblings and I have to say that I felt that I was my mom's favorite when I was growing up. As an adult I still feel like she liked me more than the others. When my sister and I talk about this she tells me that she always thought I was my mom's favorite. My mom is dead so it's not like we can ask her so maybe it just depends on the parent.
Honestly, I don't have a favorite. I truly love them all equally. They all have their strengths and weaknesses just as DH and I have strengths and weaknesses. Sure I love things about them that stand out as unique, but if I had to choose one to give away or something, there's no way I could do that. I'd rather die myself than have to choose one over another that way.
No favorite. I guess I did when they were say 20 months and 3 months. My favorite was the older one My son(the baby at the time) was a huge handful for me until Id say he was 6 months. Severely colic and I was bitter because he required so much of me, I felt like I was being taken away from my daughter . Feel guilty? Yes,however at the time I was going through severe depression. But when we both got passed that, Id say he was several months old, they both had just as much love. I love them for different reasons in some ways and prefer one over the other is different settings. Ex. Its much easier to shop with my son. They are 6 and 7 now and both are genuinely loved equally.
i try to love all of my children equally, but sometimes I catch myself favoring one over the other. now usually, this is one of the kids getting to do something or have something the other ones don't. this may be due to the fact the first child did something without being asked (chore or something like that) which the other kids can't see the logic in rewarding good behavior and will play the ';you love so and so more than me'; this happened with me growing up and my three brothers and it happens with my four kids. I personally think this is something genetic lol
I wouldn't say that my son is my ';favorite';,but we are a lot closer than I am with my daughters.Yes I love all my children,but I just prefer being around my son more on a social level.We are extremely close for being mother and son.
I enjoy all my children's company,but my son is more fun and honest
with me.
No. Both my children are different from one another. They both have things that are unique to them that I couldn't live without. My son is so laid back and easy going. He is so smart and I love the way he thinks and looks at things. He is just so smart for his age that it makes me laugh. My daughter reminds me of me. She is a character. She is so easily amused (like her mother) and loves to make you laugh. So I truly love both my kids equally. I love them for different reasons, but I couldn't pick one over the other. They are my babies. I love them and I like them both. =)
i have a 5 year old boy and a 4 year old girl,
and i can truely say i love them both equaly,
they have very different personalities,
and sometimes i like ones attitude better than another,
but all in all i love them for ther differences!
they arent perfect but i wouldnt change a thing about them!
i love how they have their own oppinion, i love how they have strong personalities and i love how they challenge me on things!
... why do you ask?
All parents with more than one child love their children in different ways. My mom loves me in a different way then she loves my brother because my brother and I are not the same person. This doesn't mean that she favors one over the other or loves one more than the other. She loves us both the same amount, just in different ways.
I have one child and one on the way and I can't imagine loving one more than I love the other.
I can honestly say, it may depend on what day it is!
You love your kids the same but some days one will drive you to the brink of madness and another won't so guess who you'd rather be with?
My kids are all very different and individual. I don't have a favorite but just like in life you find some easier to spend time with or do certain things with.
You just learn what each child enjoys and then try to join them in that.
No, I do not have a favorite... Sometimes one or more children are 'easier' than another, but I honestly love them all the same.
I like this saying: ';I have heard that you love your kids on different planes for different reasons, but the plane is all the same size.';
i'm a mom of a 2 1/2 yr old and one on the way and I often wonder if i'll favor my first born over the second baby I doubt it tho lol ... although when I was young my brother and sister (older by 11 and 8 years) always said I was the favorite but as I saw it then they would get something and I would get something but once I hit my teens my dad got a really good job we moved to FL and I started seeing that my mom did everything for me.. my brother and sister didn't live with us anymore by then they were adults and on their own. I got a car (hand me down from my mom) and other things. Me and my mom were really close then. Now it's all about my sister partly i think b/c she has been throwing fits about me for years ...we're all adults now with kids and living with our spouses ... but yeah I think parents can have favorites
my son is 8 now and has asked me, when the new baby comes, who will be the favorite. (what do you say?) So I told him ';well, you're my favorite 8 year old';. ';The baby will be my favorite baby.'; We read the book about the 8 little bears who ask their mom the same question and she pulls the same diplomatic answer I used.
I honestly don't know how else to answer the question...
No,I do not have favorite.Each child is different and each have a special quality about them.
Favoring one child over the other(s) can really hurt the other child(ren) and damage the sibling relationship.
Love your children equally and ,pay equal attention to them.
I do NOT have a favorite..There is no way I could..I love them both equally..my children are 3 and 2...their both boys..yes they have differences in them but their is no way I could ever have a favorite.. we want 3-5 more children..no matter how many kids I have I will NEVER have a favorite!
I don't. My basic, maternal love for each of them is the same. But there are different things about each of them that make me love them even more. My son, for instance, for his sense of humor. My elder daughter for her intelligence. (They're all 3 intelligent, but she's one of those brainiacs.) My younger daughter's sharp tongue and take no prisoners attitude. Lol. She's a pistol. These aren't the only things, just examples :)
Edit: I think (((Sips)))) has expressed it perfectly :P
No, I only have one child, that I know of, lol. He's my pride and joy, but I don't think that children or grand children should be favourites. By the way I have 2 sisters and a brother, who thinks he's the favourite, but little does he know.
honestly i cant say i have a favorite but i have one that amuses me more then the other 2. she is just a whole different soul then the other two. i cant say she is my favorite cause they all seem to amaze me she is just the one that sticks out out of the 3 girls.
I have 2 boys and I do not love them equally - I love them uniquely.
Each of them have their own way of being, each their own strengths and weaknesses and their own way of seeing the world. I love them differently but completely.
Father of boys (nearly 8, other 6) and daughter (4).
I love 'em all and have no favorites. They're each unique with their own foibles, quirks, genius and talent. All are unequal in many ways, but in my eyes they run neck%26amp;neck.
(((((Christy))))) (((((Crazy)))))
Yes, I have a favorite.
But the thing is, it changes. Depends on what stages they're in and so on.
And of course it doesn't mean you love one less. I love them both the same. Some people over think this question, lol.
As of yet, I don't have a favorite, no. But then again my children are still pretty young. My oldest is 5 and my youngest is 9 months. Although I do tend to favor whichever child is being less fussy.
i have only one so far.but i know that first usually more close to parents.I m youngest in my family and I know my mom love my brother more.
to me she always been to strict.
I only have one but I know I am my mom and dad's favorite, my brother is a tool!!
Granted we are both adults now so this realization which came to light 3 years ago has no affect on the people we are now!!
No. And when I see other parents grossly favor one child over another, it pisses me off.
No, I really do love them both equally, but sometimes the baby is a breath of fresh air from my 3 yr old and vice versa.
at tome i do but not all the time. you know when the two of them want to do something stupid and th other doesn't thats when.
I honestly don't have a favorite child.
I love my two girls (15 and 17) equally but there are some things I favour in one and other things I favour in the other.
How much money can an unemployed single parent actually get?
Someone told me that an unemployed or part time employed parent of two kids would get more money in benefits per month than my care worker wage of 拢1250.
Is this really true? I am beginning to think I should have just had kids instead.How much money can an unemployed single parent actually get?
The amount a claimant receives comprises an age-related personalallowance and allowances for dependent children. The current rates of the income-based Jobseeker's Allowance range from 拢30.95 (HK$390) a week for a singleperson under aged 18 to 拢80.65 (HK$1,016) for a couple both aged 18 or over.The rate for each dependent child varies with age.
Dependent Children
Dependent child under aged 11 拢20.2 (HK$254)
Dependent child aged 11 - 16拢25.9 (HK$326)
Dependent child age 16 - 18拢30.95 (HK$390)How much money can an unemployed single parent actually get?
i have no idea .but i don't think its anywhere that much unless they get other alot of other benefits like dla for all the kids etc. i think basic job seekers allowance is around 拢45 a week but i am not sure.
but what i do know is that by where i live asylum seekers who are waiting to be allowed to work in the uk are being put up in an 拢80 a night hotel whilst their application is pending.
In the state of California, a single mother of one can get about 600.00 cash, free medical, dental, optical, educational expenses and about 250.00 in food stamps.
plus, section 8 enabling them to pay rent of 100-150.00.
- a pretty comfortable living for the unmotivated.
Is this really true? I am beginning to think I should have just had kids instead.How much money can an unemployed single parent actually get?
The amount a claimant receives comprises an age-related personalallowance and allowances for dependent children. The current rates of the income-based Jobseeker's Allowance range from 拢30.95 (HK$390) a week for a singleperson under aged 18 to 拢80.65 (HK$1,016) for a couple both aged 18 or over.The rate for each dependent child varies with age.
Dependent Children
Dependent child under aged 11 拢20.2 (HK$254)
Dependent child aged 11 - 16拢25.9 (HK$326)
Dependent child age 16 - 18拢30.95 (HK$390)How much money can an unemployed single parent actually get?
i have no idea .but i don't think its anywhere that much unless they get other alot of other benefits like dla for all the kids etc. i think basic job seekers allowance is around 拢45 a week but i am not sure.
but what i do know is that by where i live asylum seekers who are waiting to be allowed to work in the uk are being put up in an 拢80 a night hotel whilst their application is pending.
In the state of California, a single mother of one can get about 600.00 cash, free medical, dental, optical, educational expenses and about 250.00 in food stamps.
plus, section 8 enabling them to pay rent of 100-150.00.
- a pretty comfortable living for the unmotivated.
What happens to the children when custodial parent dies?
My step children's mother died and she had primary physical custody of the children. Now that she has passed do the children automatically go to the father? The grandparents are claiming they are legal guardians--Can this be without any legal documents? How can my husband secure custody? We consulted an attorney that stated we didn't need to petition anything because he is the natural father. But I don't want to be blindsided with any surprises. Any Advice?What happens to the children when custodial parent dies?
Unless there was a will and/or an ammendment in the final court papers of the divorce stating that the grandparents would become legal guardians in the case of the children's mother passing away, or their father gave up legal parental rights, or if he was found by the court to be an unfit parent, there would be no reason why the father would not gain legal custody of his children. If he is their natural father and none of the above was found to be true, then he will maintain parental rights of his children.What happens to the children when custodial parent dies?
The lawyer is right. The paternal father is the next in line to get the kids. After that, it depends on state laws. The state I live in particular doesn't recognize grandparents as a custodial authority in the child's life. So chances are the kids would go to you provided you adopted them. However, I'm sure that case there would be a court battle to fight with the grandparents over that one.
If they say they are the legal guardians, then your husband would have had to be notified before hand when this decision was made.
So he just has to sit with the children and discuss this with them.
Afterwards take it to a family court mediator.
If the grandparents want custody then the judge will ask them to show just cause as to why they oppose your husband's being the custodial parent.
Usually in that situation ,the children do go to the father .They will look at his life,job,why he did not have custody to begin with.If the father is fit and can take on the responsibility they will go to him ,if not they do look at the grandparents on both sides.
Your husband would be the custodial parent. The grandparents can always take the matter to court, unless they have proof he is unfit, they lose, but they have the right to get visitation privileges.
Unless there was a will and/or an ammendment in the final court papers of the divorce stating that the grandparents would become legal guardians in the case of the children's mother passing away, or their father gave up legal parental rights, or if he was found by the court to be an unfit parent, there would be no reason why the father would not gain legal custody of his children. If he is their natural father and none of the above was found to be true, then he will maintain parental rights of his children.What happens to the children when custodial parent dies?
The lawyer is right. The paternal father is the next in line to get the kids. After that, it depends on state laws. The state I live in particular doesn't recognize grandparents as a custodial authority in the child's life. So chances are the kids would go to you provided you adopted them. However, I'm sure that case there would be a court battle to fight with the grandparents over that one.
If they say they are the legal guardians, then your husband would have had to be notified before hand when this decision was made.
So he just has to sit with the children and discuss this with them.
Afterwards take it to a family court mediator.
If the grandparents want custody then the judge will ask them to show just cause as to why they oppose your husband's being the custodial parent.
Usually in that situation ,the children do go to the father .They will look at his life,job,why he did not have custody to begin with.If the father is fit and can take on the responsibility they will go to him ,if not they do look at the grandparents on both sides.
Your husband would be the custodial parent. The grandparents can always take the matter to court, unless they have proof he is unfit, they lose, but they have the right to get visitation privileges.
Parents 25 year anniversary gift: to travel to Ireland! So what is the best tour for them?
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http://www.goaheadtours.com/tours/EIR/en鈥?/a>
http://www.goaheadtours.com/tours/LSS/gr鈥?/a>
(make sure they take the trips to the burren and the aran isalnds, they're at a good price)
They're not cheap though, upwards of $2500 each.
Lynott tours are an Irish owned company and have a much better variety of tours to fit a range of budgets (prices start around $600 for a 7-day taste of ireland tour (not including airfare, although you can book it including airfare too).
http://www.lynotttours.com/ireland.html
Parents 25 year anniversary gift: to travel to Ireland! So what is the best tour for them?
My parent's dream of Ireland, and I am willing to handle the finances, but they want to go on a tour. What are some great tours they can go on with a good price?Parents 25 year anniversary gift: to travel to Ireland! So what is the best tour for them?
Check out this offer http://omotolathomas.worldventuresdreamtrips.com/dt_info.html?dreamtrip_id=90319
check out my website http://omotolathomas.worldventures.com/. For more information email me at tthomas2884@yahoo.com.Parents 25 year anniversary gift: to travel to Ireland! So what is the best tour for them?
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Go Ahead tours have 2 good packages:
http://www.goaheadtours.com/tours/EIR/en鈥?/a>
http://www.goaheadtours.com/tours/LSS/gr鈥?/a>
(make sure they take the trips to the burren and the aran isalnds, they're at a good price)
They're not cheap though, upwards of $2500 each.
Lynott tours are an Irish owned company and have a much better variety of tours to fit a range of budgets (prices start around $600 for a 7-day taste of ireland tour (not including airfare, although you can book it including airfare too).
http://www.lynotttours.com/ireland.html
Check out this offer http://omotolathomas.worldventuresdreamtrips.com/dt_info.html?dreamtrip_id=90319
check out my website http://omotolathomas.worldventures.com/. For more information email me at tthomas2884@yahoo.com.Parents 25 year anniversary gift: to travel to Ireland! So what is the best tour for them?
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Go Ahead tours have 2 good packages:
http://www.goaheadtours.com/tours/EIR/en鈥?/a>
http://www.goaheadtours.com/tours/LSS/gr鈥?/a>
(make sure they take the trips to the burren and the aran isalnds, they're at a good price)
They're not cheap though, upwards of $2500 each.
Lynott tours are an Irish owned company and have a much better variety of tours to fit a range of budgets (prices start around $600 for a 7-day taste of ireland tour (not including airfare, although you can book it including airfare too).
http://www.lynotttours.com/ireland.html
How much money can an unemployed single parent actually get?
Someone told me that an unemployed or part time employed parent of two kids would get more money in benefits per month than my care worker wage of 拢1250.
Is this really true? I am beginning to think I should have just had kids instead.How much money can an unemployed single parent actually get?
The amount a claimant receives comprises an age-related personalallowance and allowances for dependent children. The current rates of the income-based Jobseeker's Allowance range from 拢30.95 (HK$390) a week for a singleperson under aged 18 to 拢80.65 (HK$1,016) for a couple both aged 18 or over.The rate for each dependent child varies with age.
Dependent Children
Dependent child under aged 11 拢20.2 (HK$254)
Dependent child aged 11 - 16拢25.9 (HK$326)
Dependent child age 16 - 18拢30.95 (HK$390)How much money can an unemployed single parent actually get?
i have no idea .but i don't think its anywhere that much unless they get other alot of other benefits like dla for all the kids etc. i think basic job seekers allowance is around 拢45 a week but i am not sure.
but what i do know is that by where i live asylum seekers who are waiting to be allowed to work in the uk are being put up in an 拢80 a night hotel whilst their application is pending.
In the state of California, a single mother of one can get about 600.00 cash, free medical, dental, optical, educational expenses and about 250.00 in food stamps.
plus, section 8 enabling them to pay rent of 100-150.00.
- a pretty comfortable living for the unmotivated.make up tips
Is this really true? I am beginning to think I should have just had kids instead.How much money can an unemployed single parent actually get?
The amount a claimant receives comprises an age-related personalallowance and allowances for dependent children. The current rates of the income-based Jobseeker's Allowance range from 拢30.95 (HK$390) a week for a singleperson under aged 18 to 拢80.65 (HK$1,016) for a couple both aged 18 or over.The rate for each dependent child varies with age.
Dependent Children
Dependent child under aged 11 拢20.2 (HK$254)
Dependent child aged 11 - 16拢25.9 (HK$326)
Dependent child age 16 - 18拢30.95 (HK$390)How much money can an unemployed single parent actually get?
i have no idea .but i don't think its anywhere that much unless they get other alot of other benefits like dla for all the kids etc. i think basic job seekers allowance is around 拢45 a week but i am not sure.
but what i do know is that by where i live asylum seekers who are waiting to be allowed to work in the uk are being put up in an 拢80 a night hotel whilst their application is pending.
In the state of California, a single mother of one can get about 600.00 cash, free medical, dental, optical, educational expenses and about 250.00 in food stamps.
plus, section 8 enabling them to pay rent of 100-150.00.
- a pretty comfortable living for the unmotivated.
What are the consequences for a Catholic parent who has their child baptized Lutheran?
My husband is Catholic and I am Lutheran. We are trying to decide which church to have our newborn baptized in. We had decided Lutheran because it has less restrictions on Godparents. However, someone recently told us that if we went Lutheran, my husband would no longer be allowed to take communion in the Catholic church. Is this true? Need answers as now there is an increased amount of tension between us!What are the consequences for a Catholic parent who has their child baptized Lutheran?
%26lt;%26lt;My husband is Catholic and I am Lutheran. We are trying to decide which church to have our newborn baptized in. We had decided Lutheran because it has less restrictions on Godparents.%26gt;%26gt;
You might do well to consider why those ';restrictions'; are in place.
I presume you take issue with these ';restrictions'; because a Catholic Baptism prevents certain Lutherans in your family from standing as godparent(s) to the Baptized child, right?
It is the responsibility of the godparents to raise and educate their godchild in the beliefs and practices of the Catholic Faith if the parents should become unable or unwilling to do so themselves.
Who better to do that than Catholics? That is why non-Catholics can't be godparents.
Non-Catholics can stand as official Baptism Witnesses in a Catholic Baptism. Perhaps you can consider having your Lutheran relatives stand as Official Baptism Witnesses?
%26lt;%26lt;However, someone recently told us that if we went Lutheran, my husband would no longer be allowed to take communion in the
Catholic church. Is this true?%26gt;%26gt;
Yes - not that the Catholic Church is going to do anything to prevent him from receiving Communion if he were to do it anyway - but, the Truth is, by deliberately choosing to Baptize his child anything other than Catholic is to break a promise he made with God; the promise to raise his child(ren) in the beliefs and practices of the Catholic Faith.
%26lt;%26lt;Need answers as now there is an increased amount of tension between us!%26gt;%26gt;
It's too late now but the time to have resolved this issue was sometime after you two got engaged but BEFORE you two got married.
Would you and your Lutheran godparent-hopefuls consider Official Baptism Witness? This is the resolution to the ';problem';.What are the consequences for a Catholic parent who has their child baptized Lutheran?
If your husband fails to raise his children Catholic -- as he promised to do when he got dispensation to marry you, a non-Catholic -- he will be breaking a solemn vow that he made to God. If I were in that situation, of course I would not receive the Holy Eucharist.
I'm not sure why you are worried so much about godparents. As long as one godparent is a practicing Catholic, the other (of opposite gender) can be Lutheran or any other sort of baptized, practicing Christian.
The one thing you can TRY to do is contact his priest and see if he can get dispensation to have the kids baptized at your church, on the condition that he will see to it that they get their religious education in the Catholic church and receive their other Sacraments (penance, communion, confirmation) in the Catholic Church. I think this is rather doubtful, but you can try.
Both of you were informed about your husband's parental obligations as a Catholic prior to your marriage. It's not right to try to back out of it now.
First and foremost... you are not having your newborn baptized Catholic or Lutheran. You have having them baptized a Christian, a child of God. Any baptism, performed in any Christian church, as long as it is done ';In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit'; is a valid baptism in almost any other church. This comes before any indoctrination into any denominational group.
As for Godparents, depending upon the Lutheran church, you may find they are just as picky. My home church requires that at least one of the Godparents be a Lutheran. After all, that is the person who is going to encourage the child, pray for the child, and help them grow in their faith. And the Catholic church feels the same way.
Also, please remember that Godparents are different than guardians. If something were to happen to myself and my husband, my girls would go live with their legal guardian, not their Godparents!
Perhaps the best solution would be to find a Catholic Godparent and a Lutheran Godparent, so that both faiths are covered. In the mean time, you two will need to decide how you are going to raise the child... Catholic or Lutheran.
No, I don't think it would stop him from being able to receive, but you'd be best off to ask a priest.
If you were married in the Catholic Church, then you promised to have your children baptized in the Catholic Church and raised accordingly. I would take that very seriously.
The Catholic Church has restrictions regarding Godparents because it's important. Better to follow God and be obedient to him, then to do things your way because it fits your life better.
LisaJ35... with all due respect, I'd like to comment on some of your statements...
';We had decided Lutheran because it has less restrictions on Godparents'; --- Baptism is not about the Godparents. It's about the child having a improved chance of having a strong spiritual guide. If you are deciding based on the Godparents meeting the criteria, then you may want to consider finding more ';suitable'; Godparents. Nobody says that the being Catholic is easy, but at the same time... it's not about picking and choosing what to and what not to believe in.
If your husband knowingly allows his child to be Baptized Lutheran, than that is correct. He should not be receiving communion. This is due to the fact that he is not doing what he needs to, in order to raise his child Catholic. In essence, he is putting the ';convenience'; for the Godparents ahead of what GOD and HIS church has taught it's people.
I pray that you can resolve this matter, but unfortunately, if the child is baptized as Lutheran, then your husband SHOULD NOT receive communion, until the situation is rectified.
GOD BLESS...
It's not your husband being baptized. There's no reason why he can't take communion in the Catholic church, no matter who is godparent to his child.
One thing, Lutherans won't put you out of the church because you might have picked the wrong godparents.
Your husband is Catholic. There would be no reason for denying him communion when he has done nothing wrong.
Perhaps it is time to decide what is more important to you: your love and marriage or the petty differences between two branches of the same ideology. Surely receiving a waffer from a priest is not nearly as important as the love you have for one another. I hope...
Have your child baptized Catholic and brought up Catholic. If you think your godparents are too weak, get different godparents.
Your husband would be in a state of ';Mortal'; (deadly) sin. A Catholic promises before God before their wedding to raise all children Catholic.
not true
As to your question, no, I don't think it is true that he would not be permitted to take communion. But there are still some very serious issues.
If you had a Catholic wedding (that's a big 'if'), then your husband made a promise to do everything in his power to raise his children Catholic. (I know this because this promise is required by Church law and no parish would marry you without it.) If he now agrees to baptize a child in another tradition, he is breaking his promise. While this may not require him to stop taking communion, he (and you) should certainly reflect about the meaning and value of that promise. (Misty mentioned this above, and she's right.)
Also, I'm not sure what you mean by 'restrictions on godparents'. It's true that the godparents must be Catholic (or at least one of them; often one of the two can be a non-Catholic 'witness', as long as there is one Catholic godparent), and this is probably what you mean. Well, naturally, if it is a Catholic baptism - and at the baptism, you will both promise to raise the child in the Catholic faith - it makes sense to expect the godparents to be Catholic as well, who will be responsible for the spiritual vocation of the child. I expect you probably want a non-Catholic godparent.
I think this is sort of a 'catch-22', meaning there is no good answer. Based upon your question, it seems (maybe I'm wrong) that you have no particular interest in raising the child Catholic - if that is true, then having a Catholic baptism would be an empty symbol, and perhaps even dishonest. In that case, it's best not to do it at all. Baptism is not a mere symbol, but an initiation into a particular Christian tradition - if you aren't going to raise the child in that tradition, don't baptize him/her into it.
On the other hand, as I said, IF you got a Catholic wedding (and if not, ignore this part), then your husband (at least) promised to raise the children Catholic, and would be breaking that promise.
So, I think the larger issue is for the two of you to sort out your own religious affiliation. Children need a stable home without 'religious schizophrenia'. They can't hop from church to church, and they don't want to be subjected to squabbling parents. Decide which tradition your children will be raised in (Lutheran or Catholic), have them baptized in that tradition, and take them to that church. Make the decision once and for all, or else every step along the way (baptism, confirmation, marriage) will turn into another battle. Trust me - it's better for the kids. As a Catholic, I'd rather a child be raised in a stable, faithful Lutheran home than a schizophrenic one where they never know what to believe.
there are too many rules/regulations, how does one keep up? your little baby is not accountable yet and has no idea of the committment being made, nor will ';sprinkling'; save anyone, total immersion is Biblical, perhaps do a ';dedication';? just a suggestion, not being mean or anything negative at all:-) God Bless and Keep You and Your Family :-)
You can always pretend you're Catholic.
%26lt;%26lt;My husband is Catholic and I am Lutheran. We are trying to decide which church to have our newborn baptized in. We had decided Lutheran because it has less restrictions on Godparents.%26gt;%26gt;
You might do well to consider why those ';restrictions'; are in place.
I presume you take issue with these ';restrictions'; because a Catholic Baptism prevents certain Lutherans in your family from standing as godparent(s) to the Baptized child, right?
It is the responsibility of the godparents to raise and educate their godchild in the beliefs and practices of the Catholic Faith if the parents should become unable or unwilling to do so themselves.
Who better to do that than Catholics? That is why non-Catholics can't be godparents.
Non-Catholics can stand as official Baptism Witnesses in a Catholic Baptism. Perhaps you can consider having your Lutheran relatives stand as Official Baptism Witnesses?
%26lt;%26lt;However, someone recently told us that if we went Lutheran, my husband would no longer be allowed to take communion in the
Catholic church. Is this true?%26gt;%26gt;
Yes - not that the Catholic Church is going to do anything to prevent him from receiving Communion if he were to do it anyway - but, the Truth is, by deliberately choosing to Baptize his child anything other than Catholic is to break a promise he made with God; the promise to raise his child(ren) in the beliefs and practices of the Catholic Faith.
%26lt;%26lt;Need answers as now there is an increased amount of tension between us!%26gt;%26gt;
It's too late now but the time to have resolved this issue was sometime after you two got engaged but BEFORE you two got married.
Would you and your Lutheran godparent-hopefuls consider Official Baptism Witness? This is the resolution to the ';problem';.What are the consequences for a Catholic parent who has their child baptized Lutheran?
If your husband fails to raise his children Catholic -- as he promised to do when he got dispensation to marry you, a non-Catholic -- he will be breaking a solemn vow that he made to God. If I were in that situation, of course I would not receive the Holy Eucharist.
I'm not sure why you are worried so much about godparents. As long as one godparent is a practicing Catholic, the other (of opposite gender) can be Lutheran or any other sort of baptized, practicing Christian.
The one thing you can TRY to do is contact his priest and see if he can get dispensation to have the kids baptized at your church, on the condition that he will see to it that they get their religious education in the Catholic church and receive their other Sacraments (penance, communion, confirmation) in the Catholic Church. I think this is rather doubtful, but you can try.
Both of you were informed about your husband's parental obligations as a Catholic prior to your marriage. It's not right to try to back out of it now.
First and foremost... you are not having your newborn baptized Catholic or Lutheran. You have having them baptized a Christian, a child of God. Any baptism, performed in any Christian church, as long as it is done ';In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit'; is a valid baptism in almost any other church. This comes before any indoctrination into any denominational group.
As for Godparents, depending upon the Lutheran church, you may find they are just as picky. My home church requires that at least one of the Godparents be a Lutheran. After all, that is the person who is going to encourage the child, pray for the child, and help them grow in their faith. And the Catholic church feels the same way.
Also, please remember that Godparents are different than guardians. If something were to happen to myself and my husband, my girls would go live with their legal guardian, not their Godparents!
Perhaps the best solution would be to find a Catholic Godparent and a Lutheran Godparent, so that both faiths are covered. In the mean time, you two will need to decide how you are going to raise the child... Catholic or Lutheran.
No, I don't think it would stop him from being able to receive, but you'd be best off to ask a priest.
If you were married in the Catholic Church, then you promised to have your children baptized in the Catholic Church and raised accordingly. I would take that very seriously.
The Catholic Church has restrictions regarding Godparents because it's important. Better to follow God and be obedient to him, then to do things your way because it fits your life better.
LisaJ35... with all due respect, I'd like to comment on some of your statements...
';We had decided Lutheran because it has less restrictions on Godparents'; --- Baptism is not about the Godparents. It's about the child having a improved chance of having a strong spiritual guide. If you are deciding based on the Godparents meeting the criteria, then you may want to consider finding more ';suitable'; Godparents. Nobody says that the being Catholic is easy, but at the same time... it's not about picking and choosing what to and what not to believe in.
If your husband knowingly allows his child to be Baptized Lutheran, than that is correct. He should not be receiving communion. This is due to the fact that he is not doing what he needs to, in order to raise his child Catholic. In essence, he is putting the ';convenience'; for the Godparents ahead of what GOD and HIS church has taught it's people.
I pray that you can resolve this matter, but unfortunately, if the child is baptized as Lutheran, then your husband SHOULD NOT receive communion, until the situation is rectified.
GOD BLESS...
It's not your husband being baptized. There's no reason why he can't take communion in the Catholic church, no matter who is godparent to his child.
One thing, Lutherans won't put you out of the church because you might have picked the wrong godparents.
Your husband is Catholic. There would be no reason for denying him communion when he has done nothing wrong.
Perhaps it is time to decide what is more important to you: your love and marriage or the petty differences between two branches of the same ideology. Surely receiving a waffer from a priest is not nearly as important as the love you have for one another. I hope...
Have your child baptized Catholic and brought up Catholic. If you think your godparents are too weak, get different godparents.
Your husband would be in a state of ';Mortal'; (deadly) sin. A Catholic promises before God before their wedding to raise all children Catholic.
not true
As to your question, no, I don't think it is true that he would not be permitted to take communion. But there are still some very serious issues.
If you had a Catholic wedding (that's a big 'if'), then your husband made a promise to do everything in his power to raise his children Catholic. (I know this because this promise is required by Church law and no parish would marry you without it.) If he now agrees to baptize a child in another tradition, he is breaking his promise. While this may not require him to stop taking communion, he (and you) should certainly reflect about the meaning and value of that promise. (Misty mentioned this above, and she's right.)
Also, I'm not sure what you mean by 'restrictions on godparents'. It's true that the godparents must be Catholic (or at least one of them; often one of the two can be a non-Catholic 'witness', as long as there is one Catholic godparent), and this is probably what you mean. Well, naturally, if it is a Catholic baptism - and at the baptism, you will both promise to raise the child in the Catholic faith - it makes sense to expect the godparents to be Catholic as well, who will be responsible for the spiritual vocation of the child. I expect you probably want a non-Catholic godparent.
I think this is sort of a 'catch-22', meaning there is no good answer. Based upon your question, it seems (maybe I'm wrong) that you have no particular interest in raising the child Catholic - if that is true, then having a Catholic baptism would be an empty symbol, and perhaps even dishonest. In that case, it's best not to do it at all. Baptism is not a mere symbol, but an initiation into a particular Christian tradition - if you aren't going to raise the child in that tradition, don't baptize him/her into it.
On the other hand, as I said, IF you got a Catholic wedding (and if not, ignore this part), then your husband (at least) promised to raise the children Catholic, and would be breaking that promise.
So, I think the larger issue is for the two of you to sort out your own religious affiliation. Children need a stable home without 'religious schizophrenia'. They can't hop from church to church, and they don't want to be subjected to squabbling parents. Decide which tradition your children will be raised in (Lutheran or Catholic), have them baptized in that tradition, and take them to that church. Make the decision once and for all, or else every step along the way (baptism, confirmation, marriage) will turn into another battle. Trust me - it's better for the kids. As a Catholic, I'd rather a child be raised in a stable, faithful Lutheran home than a schizophrenic one where they never know what to believe.
there are too many rules/regulations, how does one keep up? your little baby is not accountable yet and has no idea of the committment being made, nor will ';sprinkling'; save anyone, total immersion is Biblical, perhaps do a ';dedication';? just a suggestion, not being mean or anything negative at all:-) God Bless and Keep You and Your Family :-)
You can always pretend you're Catholic.
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