I watched Sound of Music on Wednesday with my school and loved it! Now, I really want to watch it again, how do I convince my parents to watch it with me? I don't want like, the best seats, but at least good seats. I know we aren't rich, we're a middle class family. But what's a good way to know that I want to watch it without obsessing over it?What's a good way to convince your parents to watch a Broadway musical?
Act normal and keep it simple.
Tuesday, August 24, 2010
What Should I do To prove to my parents that I can take care of a bunny?
I really want a bunny but my parents wont let me, they say that i need to prove myself responsible. what do i do to prove that?What Should I do To prove to my parents that I can take care of a bunny?
Just so you know, rabbits are A LOT more work than most traditional pets. When people say they are an ';easy pet,'; it is a huge misconception.
I only have one bunny, but I have a very lengthy care routine that must be carried out everyday.
He eats four cups of freshly chopped veggies every morning with unlimited hay (you must rotate at least 3 types of bunny-safe veggies a day to ensure he gets all the necissary vitamins) and his water needs to be changed regularly.
His litterbox must be cleaned daily because the ammonia will damage his lungs (not to mention accidents- bunnies are really messy)
I have to groom him every other day since he is long-haired and clip his nails once a month.
He needs a hutch/cage that needs to be cleaned and maintained weekly.
He has a bunny proof room (as all should- do not keep them locked in cages!!!). We have playtime and rotate toys daily.
He needs regular vet checks to ensure healthy teeth and GI.
The list goes on....
Now, my bunny Linus is one of my most favorite pets, but even as an single adult, I have trouble finding enough time to care for his basic needs. Perhaps your parents are right. Unless they are willing to help with the care of the bunny, you may have more than you can handle, and one should not get a pet unless they can offer it the best quality life.
As for convincing your parents, buy SEVERAL good quality rabbit books that cover everything from health to basic care. Read them through until you are an expert on the subject. Consider if you still want the enormous responsibility.
Then sit down with your parents and tell them everything this lovely new pet will entail and work out a comprimise.
Good luck!!!
~AnnieWhat Should I do To prove to my parents that I can take care of a bunny?
if they said that then ask them how to do itif they wont tell you.
if there is a family pet take some of that responsibility
clean your room
always do what you are told
oh and last summer after i got a giune pig i thought i wwas ready but owning a pet is a lot of work (a rabbit is even more work thana guine pig) and i know you have heard that from your parents but until i got a guine pig i had no clue how much work.
try to get your parents to let you ';test drive'; a freind rabiit hamster gerbil guine pig or soemthing like that for a week or see and then reavaluate your readiness for a pet.
when i was aiming for a guine pig last year i probably would have ignored this if someone told it to me saying i was ready for the responsibility but be careful oh if you do get one make sure you get the care sheet from your ocal petsmart and save yourself $50 and buy food and bedding from walmart. i boought everything from petsmart for guine pig and cost $80 when i could have but what had to be bught at petsmart for $30 (guine pig and water bottle and chew sticks) and bought the rest for $15 at walmart
You could start researching the breeds and which one you like best. Also you could find out the cost of a rabbit per month and start saving the money for a hutch, rabbit, food, etc. I hope this helps! Good Luck!
Just so you know, rabbits are A LOT more work than most traditional pets. When people say they are an ';easy pet,'; it is a huge misconception.
I only have one bunny, but I have a very lengthy care routine that must be carried out everyday.
He eats four cups of freshly chopped veggies every morning with unlimited hay (you must rotate at least 3 types of bunny-safe veggies a day to ensure he gets all the necissary vitamins) and his water needs to be changed regularly.
His litterbox must be cleaned daily because the ammonia will damage his lungs (not to mention accidents- bunnies are really messy)
I have to groom him every other day since he is long-haired and clip his nails once a month.
He needs a hutch/cage that needs to be cleaned and maintained weekly.
He has a bunny proof room (as all should- do not keep them locked in cages!!!). We have playtime and rotate toys daily.
He needs regular vet checks to ensure healthy teeth and GI.
The list goes on....
Now, my bunny Linus is one of my most favorite pets, but even as an single adult, I have trouble finding enough time to care for his basic needs. Perhaps your parents are right. Unless they are willing to help with the care of the bunny, you may have more than you can handle, and one should not get a pet unless they can offer it the best quality life.
As for convincing your parents, buy SEVERAL good quality rabbit books that cover everything from health to basic care. Read them through until you are an expert on the subject. Consider if you still want the enormous responsibility.
Then sit down with your parents and tell them everything this lovely new pet will entail and work out a comprimise.
Good luck!!!
~AnnieWhat Should I do To prove to my parents that I can take care of a bunny?
if they said that then ask them how to do itif they wont tell you.
if there is a family pet take some of that responsibility
clean your room
always do what you are told
oh and last summer after i got a giune pig i thought i wwas ready but owning a pet is a lot of work (a rabbit is even more work thana guine pig) and i know you have heard that from your parents but until i got a guine pig i had no clue how much work.
try to get your parents to let you ';test drive'; a freind rabiit hamster gerbil guine pig or soemthing like that for a week or see and then reavaluate your readiness for a pet.
when i was aiming for a guine pig last year i probably would have ignored this if someone told it to me saying i was ready for the responsibility but be careful oh if you do get one make sure you get the care sheet from your ocal petsmart and save yourself $50 and buy food and bedding from walmart. i boought everything from petsmart for guine pig and cost $80 when i could have but what had to be bught at petsmart for $30 (guine pig and water bottle and chew sticks) and bought the rest for $15 at walmart
You could start researching the breeds and which one you like best. Also you could find out the cost of a rabbit per month and start saving the money for a hutch, rabbit, food, etc. I hope this helps! Good Luck!
How old do you have to be to get your eyebrows waxed at bestcuts without a parent or something?
Okay, I'm 13 and I want to get my eyebrows waxed. At bestcuts salon, am I allowed to with my friends like without a parent? Please give me evidence or something on how you know for surem :) thabkk youuHow old do you have to be to get your eyebrows waxed at bestcuts without a parent or something?
You have to be old enough to have money.How old do you have to be to get your eyebrows waxed at bestcuts without a parent or something?
I have gotten my own hair cut and everything else since I was 13. They don't ask questions really. It's only a minor service so you should have no issue.
i've never heard of bestcuts, but if they let you go there without a parent to get a haircut, then they'll let you go get ur brows waxed
just go and see if they do it. if they don't, they don't.
I'm pretty sure u don't need ur parents when u get ur eyebrow's waxed...i've gotten mine done with the string n i was just with some friends
16 or 18. or who cares.
well pbob not well eyebrows WAXED you need a parent
I like waffles
hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm my mom does eyebrows and i think 16 but im not so suremakeup help
You have to be old enough to have money.How old do you have to be to get your eyebrows waxed at bestcuts without a parent or something?
I have gotten my own hair cut and everything else since I was 13. They don't ask questions really. It's only a minor service so you should have no issue.
i've never heard of bestcuts, but if they let you go there without a parent to get a haircut, then they'll let you go get ur brows waxed
just go and see if they do it. if they don't, they don't.
I'm pretty sure u don't need ur parents when u get ur eyebrow's waxed...i've gotten mine done with the string n i was just with some friends
16 or 18. or who cares.
well pbob not well eyebrows WAXED you need a parent
I like waffles
hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm my mom does eyebrows and i think 16 but im not so sure
Should parents who stick their children on ritalin be subject to a psychological evaluation them selves?
I mean, it is a well known fact that add and adhd are way over diagnosed. Should it be a law that before a child may be diagnosed with a behavioral disorder, that their parents must first be subjected to psychological evaluation to make certain that the parent in and of themselves is not causing the behavioral disorder through their own actions?Should parents who stick their children on ritalin be subject to a psychological evaluation them selves?
I don't think pills are the answer to making a child calm down, or behave. When I was 7 I had a mean streak. I was really bad at school and was put in Juvenile hall. The doctors answer to it was, let's put him on this medication!(Can't remember the name of it)
But that medication didn't help me at all. I was still being mean. But a good *** whoopin from my dad fixed the problem.
But yeah medication is not the answer. I think kids are over drugged.Should parents who stick their children on ritalin be subject to a psychological evaluation them selves?
I understand your concern about the parental (and teacher, since they request a lot of the tests) role in assessing ADHD (it is now all called that--see links below).
However, only 3 to 5% of children are actually diagnosed.
Diagnosing is done by doctors, not parents.
Brain-imaging has been done to prove the existence of ADHD in children as young as 3 years old.
In any case, a law is a bit dramatic and a psychological evaluation of the parents won't necessarily tell you whether or not they are good parents. Perhaps Family Therapy should be part of the prescription instead. ADHD and children with behavior disorders (no matter how they came about--fetal alcohol syndrome, etc) need more attention from parents and better practices at home.
As for the high incidences of ADHD, have you ever done research on US vaccinations that contained mercury? The occurrences coincide.
Although I agree that pills are given out like candy now a days. A parent is only looking out for the well being of their child. Now don't get me wrong I am perfectly fine with psychologists, they have helped a person I know a BUNCH. There are going to be some doctors who just dole out the easy answer of Ritalin though, but not all doctors are like that.
The American standard for diagnosis needs to be changed.
In the UK (where the incidence rate is 1 child out of 1000) a psychologist AND medical doctor need to observe and diagnose the phenomena in two settings....
So why is it here that half a classroom can have it?
Hmmmmmm?
Is there something so different between British and American Children? Yeah, I didn't think so either....
I don't think that they should just be put on medication because their parents say they should
Some parents only want to put their kids on ritalin, painkillers and other sedatives so that they can be put on their own high on their painkillers or whatever that they've been prescribed
Mostly over restriction by the parents is leading to psychological evaluation. Children's should be turned to give ears what we say be achieved with more love and affection we show them in all aspects.
Yes, I suppose that does seem reasonable.
I don't think pills are the answer to making a child calm down, or behave. When I was 7 I had a mean streak. I was really bad at school and was put in Juvenile hall. The doctors answer to it was, let's put him on this medication!(Can't remember the name of it)
But that medication didn't help me at all. I was still being mean. But a good *** whoopin from my dad fixed the problem.
But yeah medication is not the answer. I think kids are over drugged.Should parents who stick their children on ritalin be subject to a psychological evaluation them selves?
I understand your concern about the parental (and teacher, since they request a lot of the tests) role in assessing ADHD (it is now all called that--see links below).
However, only 3 to 5% of children are actually diagnosed.
Diagnosing is done by doctors, not parents.
Brain-imaging has been done to prove the existence of ADHD in children as young as 3 years old.
In any case, a law is a bit dramatic and a psychological evaluation of the parents won't necessarily tell you whether or not they are good parents. Perhaps Family Therapy should be part of the prescription instead. ADHD and children with behavior disorders (no matter how they came about--fetal alcohol syndrome, etc) need more attention from parents and better practices at home.
As for the high incidences of ADHD, have you ever done research on US vaccinations that contained mercury? The occurrences coincide.
Although I agree that pills are given out like candy now a days. A parent is only looking out for the well being of their child. Now don't get me wrong I am perfectly fine with psychologists, they have helped a person I know a BUNCH. There are going to be some doctors who just dole out the easy answer of Ritalin though, but not all doctors are like that.
The American standard for diagnosis needs to be changed.
In the UK (where the incidence rate is 1 child out of 1000) a psychologist AND medical doctor need to observe and diagnose the phenomena in two settings....
So why is it here that half a classroom can have it?
Hmmmmmm?
Is there something so different between British and American Children? Yeah, I didn't think so either....
I don't think that they should just be put on medication because their parents say they should
Some parents only want to put their kids on ritalin, painkillers and other sedatives so that they can be put on their own high on their painkillers or whatever that they've been prescribed
Mostly over restriction by the parents is leading to psychological evaluation. Children's should be turned to give ears what we say be achieved with more love and affection we show them in all aspects.
Yes, I suppose that does seem reasonable.
My parents want to sign over their home to my brother and I. What do we need to do and will there be problems
Parents are both 65, the home is paid for, they will continue to pay the property taxes and insurance. They want to do this in case they are put in a nursing home.My parents want to sign over their home to my brother and I. What do we need to do and will there be problems
Check with an estate plan attorney. Property taxes will increase because they are now getting a discount because of their age. But there are other issues that an attorney can explain to you.My parents want to sign over their home to my brother and I. What do we need to do and will there be problems
Your parents should put the property in to a Living Trust, and assign a conservator to take charge of their affairs should they become incapable. In doing so, it will minimize taxes, legal costs, stress and heartache for all. You may consider consulting an attorney that specializes in estate law, or there are D.I.Y. trust kits. In any case, don't confuse a trust with a ';will';, or ';living will';. While a ';will'; can effect the transfer of property, it does not protect the estate from taxes, or probate, and a ';living will'; has nothing to do with property, a living will is a document that states a persons life choice in the event they become incapable of communicating either physically, or mentally whether or not they wish to live or die if on life support.
I understand why they would want to do this transfer.
You should check with an estate planner there might be a better way of doing this and achieving the same objective.
A consultation with an estate planner should be free for the first appointment. Also at that time you should ask the estate planner what cost would be involved for their services, if you decide to use them.
After seeing an estate planner you can make an intelligent decision as to if you want to do this transfer or not.
Before doing this transfer you might want to check with your tax consultant to find out any tax consequences that might affect the trnsfer.
If you still want to do this transfer, look in the telephone book and locate a title company. Call them, tell them you have a family transfer that you would like to make from parents to children.
While they are on the telephone ask the cost for their service, It should not be a lot perhaps less than $50.00 or so.
They will set up an appointment for you and your parents to come in and sign all the necessary paper work to accomplish the transfer. They will have a notary on staff that will take care of the notary requirements.
The title company will also make sure that the deeds and other necessary documents are recorded at the county recorders office in the county where the property is located.
Going through a title company will perhaps save a few potential legal problems down the road.
Make sure the title company send you and your brother a copy of all the deeds and other documents you were required to sign.
I hope this has been of some use to you, good luck.
';FIGHT ON';
Well if it happens within 3-5 years of the occurrence, the transfer can be undone. So you're saying they want to transfer the property to you and your brother and make the state pay for their care rather than paying for it themselves with their own assets????
They need to sign a QuitClaim Deed to you and your brother and it needs to be recorded. It may be exempt from transfer tax. You and your brother will likely have some gift tax liability as they are only permitted to give each of you $10-12,000 annually.
They should have Health Care Power of Attorney and Living Will forms executed. Very Important.
You want to double check in an attorney in your state to verify the best way to do it so you don't have to worry about estate taxes or want not. If they do put it in you name they have to chance the homeowners insurance to your names, they can still pay it but it can't be in their names if they do not own the home. Same thing with the taxes.. the tax department will automatically put your names on the tax bill but they don't care who pays it as long as it gets paid. What you want to do seems fine but I would double check with an attorney so you know the exact legality of what your doing and how it may effect you.
Each state allows a parent to ';gift'; their child(ren) each year a specific value, without an income tax implication. For example, $l6,000.00 per year per child. Check this out with a knowledgeable person/attorney.
In my State, if parents are put in a nursing home and no longer have real estate as an asset, the State will check the County records back three years for transfers of assets. If there are those type of transfers within the 3 year period, then the State will not pick up the tab, because they know that the transfer of real property was made to avoid nursing home bills.
The other answers about house insurance and property tax problems are correct too.
make sure you have some papers drawn up stating that each of you are in 50/50 and if any upkeep is to be done it must be in total agreement.I had some friends who had a ';family ';house and the brother totally made the house unliveable knocking down walls without his sisters approval or knowledge, and with no paperwork showing she was part owner there was nothing she could do. Good Luck.
call your tax person! not a H%26amp;R block person either, call someone in your area called an Enrolled Agent pay them the hourly rate and hear what they have to say, ask them about a living will and dont do anything until you have talked to them trust me, they are the TAX gods of the the tax world, and trust me it will be a tax issue if you dont handle it right.
learn to share you obviously are stuck up and don't know how many people live on the street you have a free home offered and your spending 5 points asking this question when you should be going with your brother and parents to sign an agreement to take the house.
Call an attorney immediately. In most states, it's better for your parents to will the house to you rather sign it over. It can make a HUGE tax difference.
You will need to go to a lawyer and have everything legally set up, otherwise probate court will take it all away after their deaths.
THIS IS A DUMB idea. Especially for the reasons given.
Your parents are losing ALL control on the house. The kids will have total contract and ownership. DO NOT DO THIS%26gt;
Dookey all up on yo' leg and smooth that leg out!
Den do a African spell to make you pleaseant at this moment in time!
honey, you need to take dat home so you aint livin on da street like me.
Kill brother and all will be good.
Check with an estate plan attorney. Property taxes will increase because they are now getting a discount because of their age. But there are other issues that an attorney can explain to you.My parents want to sign over their home to my brother and I. What do we need to do and will there be problems
Your parents should put the property in to a Living Trust, and assign a conservator to take charge of their affairs should they become incapable. In doing so, it will minimize taxes, legal costs, stress and heartache for all. You may consider consulting an attorney that specializes in estate law, or there are D.I.Y. trust kits. In any case, don't confuse a trust with a ';will';, or ';living will';. While a ';will'; can effect the transfer of property, it does not protect the estate from taxes, or probate, and a ';living will'; has nothing to do with property, a living will is a document that states a persons life choice in the event they become incapable of communicating either physically, or mentally whether or not they wish to live or die if on life support.
I understand why they would want to do this transfer.
You should check with an estate planner there might be a better way of doing this and achieving the same objective.
A consultation with an estate planner should be free for the first appointment. Also at that time you should ask the estate planner what cost would be involved for their services, if you decide to use them.
After seeing an estate planner you can make an intelligent decision as to if you want to do this transfer or not.
Before doing this transfer you might want to check with your tax consultant to find out any tax consequences that might affect the trnsfer.
If you still want to do this transfer, look in the telephone book and locate a title company. Call them, tell them you have a family transfer that you would like to make from parents to children.
While they are on the telephone ask the cost for their service, It should not be a lot perhaps less than $50.00 or so.
They will set up an appointment for you and your parents to come in and sign all the necessary paper work to accomplish the transfer. They will have a notary on staff that will take care of the notary requirements.
The title company will also make sure that the deeds and other necessary documents are recorded at the county recorders office in the county where the property is located.
Going through a title company will perhaps save a few potential legal problems down the road.
Make sure the title company send you and your brother a copy of all the deeds and other documents you were required to sign.
I hope this has been of some use to you, good luck.
';FIGHT ON';
Well if it happens within 3-5 years of the occurrence, the transfer can be undone. So you're saying they want to transfer the property to you and your brother and make the state pay for their care rather than paying for it themselves with their own assets????
They need to sign a QuitClaim Deed to you and your brother and it needs to be recorded. It may be exempt from transfer tax. You and your brother will likely have some gift tax liability as they are only permitted to give each of you $10-12,000 annually.
They should have Health Care Power of Attorney and Living Will forms executed. Very Important.
You want to double check in an attorney in your state to verify the best way to do it so you don't have to worry about estate taxes or want not. If they do put it in you name they have to chance the homeowners insurance to your names, they can still pay it but it can't be in their names if they do not own the home. Same thing with the taxes.. the tax department will automatically put your names on the tax bill but they don't care who pays it as long as it gets paid. What you want to do seems fine but I would double check with an attorney so you know the exact legality of what your doing and how it may effect you.
Each state allows a parent to ';gift'; their child(ren) each year a specific value, without an income tax implication. For example, $l6,000.00 per year per child. Check this out with a knowledgeable person/attorney.
In my State, if parents are put in a nursing home and no longer have real estate as an asset, the State will check the County records back three years for transfers of assets. If there are those type of transfers within the 3 year period, then the State will not pick up the tab, because they know that the transfer of real property was made to avoid nursing home bills.
The other answers about house insurance and property tax problems are correct too.
make sure you have some papers drawn up stating that each of you are in 50/50 and if any upkeep is to be done it must be in total agreement.I had some friends who had a ';family ';house and the brother totally made the house unliveable knocking down walls without his sisters approval or knowledge, and with no paperwork showing she was part owner there was nothing she could do. Good Luck.
call your tax person! not a H%26amp;R block person either, call someone in your area called an Enrolled Agent pay them the hourly rate and hear what they have to say, ask them about a living will and dont do anything until you have talked to them trust me, they are the TAX gods of the the tax world, and trust me it will be a tax issue if you dont handle it right.
learn to share you obviously are stuck up and don't know how many people live on the street you have a free home offered and your spending 5 points asking this question when you should be going with your brother and parents to sign an agreement to take the house.
Call an attorney immediately. In most states, it's better for your parents to will the house to you rather sign it over. It can make a HUGE tax difference.
You will need to go to a lawyer and have everything legally set up, otherwise probate court will take it all away after their deaths.
THIS IS A DUMB idea. Especially for the reasons given.
Your parents are losing ALL control on the house. The kids will have total contract and ownership. DO NOT DO THIS%26gt;
Dookey all up on yo' leg and smooth that leg out!
Den do a African spell to make you pleaseant at this moment in time!
honey, you need to take dat home so you aint livin on da street like me.
Kill brother and all will be good.
What qualities would you look for in adoptive parents?
My dad set up me up to meet a pair of potential adoptive parents for my unborn, what questions should I ask?What qualities would you look for in adoptive parents?
Stability - jobs, homes
Security - income, medical insurance
Lifestyle - family and friends, social activities, community involvement, church
Personalities - open, caring, humor, family oriented, stable emotionally
Background and references - no arrests, no addictions, great references from non relatives
This is just a beginning......
If you are adopting through an agency, they will give you a ';Profile'; which contains all this info and more. It's non identified (no specific details such as last names, etc.) just as your info (';Profile';) given to the adoptive parents is also de-identified. This really is the only way to start off. You can fully open it if you all agree after you really know each other over time (3 months or more).
Also, EVERY adopting couple must have an ADOPTION HOMESTUDY, which covers all of the above details plus many many more. You have a right to ready that (de-identified) or hear the attorney or social worker read it leaving out specifics (last names, company names, etc.).
As far as experienced parents or new ones -- both have ';advantages'; so you can't go wrong! Parents who already have a child are experienced -- and you can SEE for yourself how they are as parents by seeing them interact with and parent their first child. Also, you can SEE what their first child is like -- spoiled, well behaved, snotty, kind?? But then -- first time parents discover all the wonders and newness of parenting with your little one as their first! Neither child is loved or cherished or celebrated any less, I can assure you!!
In terms of race, I think more important than the couple's race is their attitude about races, ethnicites, cultures of ALL kinds. You should be able to SEE this in their lives. Diverse friends? Diverse church? Even art and ethnic foods! Look carefully at the photos in the PHOTO BOOK they should have made for you -- photos of their home, family, neighborhood, friends, vacations, celebrations, hobbies. What do you see? All one race? All one age group? Look for diversity, and that is the environment your child will be raised in. Be wary of monotone families with only one race reflected in their lives, photos. You do not want your child to be racially isolated.
This is where an experienced couple who has already adopted may be a strength to you --if they have already adopted a child of another race (any, in my opinion) then it MAY say something about their openness in general and their diverse lifestyle (But not always. Again, look for ways demonstrated throughout their lives.) Read about diversity and attitudes about people from different races and cultures in their homestudy -- this is a required part of the homestudy! They also have to QUALIFY to adopt a child who is other than their specific race/ethnicity, so this will be contained in their homestudy approval -- at the end of the report.
You have a right to ALL this information! If you are working through a good agency or adoption attorney, they know this and will provide this very willingly. If not -- ask for it! If you are not going through an attorney or agency, make sure someone gets a copy of all their paperwork first -- APPROVED homestudy, background checks, references, etc. And make sure you spell out on paper all the continuing contact you THINK you may EVER want, and that all of you sign this. Visitation? Photos, letters, gifts, etc.
Good luck, and what a great start you're making!!What qualities would you look for in adoptive parents?
Those are the main questions I would ask down in the source box. For me personally, I would really want to know about how the couple interact together, what their hobbies are, how much contact they wanted me to have and their religious beliefs. Race wouldn't really matter to me at all, but I am not sure about the whole kids thing. On one hand I would like to see how the couple treats the kids they already have... do they yell at them? are the kids dressed worse then the parents or better? Do the kids get along with each other basically? I think I would be equally open to a couple who had children and one who didn't.
The most important thing to look for is love among the family members. Visit their home and see how many pictures they have of family members. The more pictures, the better. Also ask them about what happens if you want to know about your child's progress or if the child asks about you. Ask them about their idea of raising kids (they should be strict enough to enforce structure in the child's life but not enough to physically abuse the child). Ask them for examples of their friends with kids they will imitate... and see if you can talk to some of them about their child-raising.
Also ask about their desire for education... a child needs to be given all the chances for good education, but not forced into a particular field.
I don't think race or previous children are a big issue, especially the latter. An older child who is happy and loved will in fact make a great older sibling for your child. And it's extra proof that the adoptive parents will love and nurture your child. It depends on the child and how the parents handle the new baby... remember, they could have a child after adopting your baby too. So don't go by that alone.
Good luck!!
I would want to know if they plan to raise the baby in a certain religion.
When we met our biological family, I don't recall many questions other than ';tell us a bit about yourselves';. That opened up the door for a wonderful conversation between all of us, and it just went beautifully from there. When they asked us to be the parents, we were ecstatic.
I would think if I was making an adoption plan for a child, I would want to know the basics, like how long the couple has been together and what their ideas of parenting would entail.
As for the race, we have many friends who have adopted internationally or children of a different race here in the states. I believe that is one of the beautiful things about our society today - that mixed families are not frowned upon as they were in the past - and it's a beautiful way to introduce new customs and traditions into family life.
Good luck to you. And ';thank you'; for creating an adoption plan for your child. You are giving an amazing gift to someone. Bless you.
The qualities in adoptive parents need be no different from those of biological parents but pls do ask if they would be open to ur having some connection/contact with ur baby later on in life.This is hugely important.The children ,often,show a strong desire later in life to know who their biological parents are.Many adoptive parents are open to this contact but some may not be comfortable with this idea.Best of luck and lots of love to u as u go thru the process of handing ur baby to the adoptive parents.
Financial status of the adoptive parents, their education, ask if they're college grads so they're able to teach your child properly. Race is a big issue, I think.. you want your child to learn from the same culture you grew up it. I agree with you, first time parents will be a better choice for that child.
Here are the questions I would ask:
Why do you want to adopt?
What do you do for a living?
What are your plans for work after the baby? Is one or the other going to stay home? Nanny, daycare?
How many hours a week do you work? (you don't want parents who work 80 hour weeks and have no time for your baby)
Financial capable of supporting a baby?
If they have children, how many? Have they talked to the children about adoptation?
Do they have family support? Grandparents close by, family/friends?
Are they going to tell the baby about being adopted? (Im not sure if you want an open adoption or semi-open or closed ) Will they keep in contact, pics, etc?
Then if you like those, get to know them
Where did you meet?
How long have you been married?
What do you do for hobbies/activities?
What is a way you deal with stress? Alone? Together?
Where do you live?
Make sure that if they check out there, that you go to their house and see where your child will be living, try and meet any family and friends that will be around the baby. This will give you a better idea on who they are. Good Luck!
Every question that has been posed so far is answered in the couples home study. I would ask to see their home study done by a licensed social worker. This is just the first meeting of many provided it goes well. Meet them and get your general feel. If you are like me you'll know after a short period of time whether you want to get to know them further.
Just remember no one is perfect and we all have our faults. You are looking for some one who would be a great parent.
As a side note I would say that I would ask what their intentions would be should the child be born with a deformity or mental deficiency. Are they looking for a perfect child? There is no such thing and at the same time they are all perfect.
Good luck.
Stability - jobs, homes
Security - income, medical insurance
Lifestyle - family and friends, social activities, community involvement, church
Personalities - open, caring, humor, family oriented, stable emotionally
Background and references - no arrests, no addictions, great references from non relatives
This is just a beginning......
If you are adopting through an agency, they will give you a ';Profile'; which contains all this info and more. It's non identified (no specific details such as last names, etc.) just as your info (';Profile';) given to the adoptive parents is also de-identified. This really is the only way to start off. You can fully open it if you all agree after you really know each other over time (3 months or more).
Also, EVERY adopting couple must have an ADOPTION HOMESTUDY, which covers all of the above details plus many many more. You have a right to ready that (de-identified) or hear the attorney or social worker read it leaving out specifics (last names, company names, etc.).
As far as experienced parents or new ones -- both have ';advantages'; so you can't go wrong! Parents who already have a child are experienced -- and you can SEE for yourself how they are as parents by seeing them interact with and parent their first child. Also, you can SEE what their first child is like -- spoiled, well behaved, snotty, kind?? But then -- first time parents discover all the wonders and newness of parenting with your little one as their first! Neither child is loved or cherished or celebrated any less, I can assure you!!
In terms of race, I think more important than the couple's race is their attitude about races, ethnicites, cultures of ALL kinds. You should be able to SEE this in their lives. Diverse friends? Diverse church? Even art and ethnic foods! Look carefully at the photos in the PHOTO BOOK they should have made for you -- photos of their home, family, neighborhood, friends, vacations, celebrations, hobbies. What do you see? All one race? All one age group? Look for diversity, and that is the environment your child will be raised in. Be wary of monotone families with only one race reflected in their lives, photos. You do not want your child to be racially isolated.
This is where an experienced couple who has already adopted may be a strength to you --if they have already adopted a child of another race (any, in my opinion) then it MAY say something about their openness in general and their diverse lifestyle (But not always. Again, look for ways demonstrated throughout their lives.) Read about diversity and attitudes about people from different races and cultures in their homestudy -- this is a required part of the homestudy! They also have to QUALIFY to adopt a child who is other than their specific race/ethnicity, so this will be contained in their homestudy approval -- at the end of the report.
You have a right to ALL this information! If you are working through a good agency or adoption attorney, they know this and will provide this very willingly. If not -- ask for it! If you are not going through an attorney or agency, make sure someone gets a copy of all their paperwork first -- APPROVED homestudy, background checks, references, etc. And make sure you spell out on paper all the continuing contact you THINK you may EVER want, and that all of you sign this. Visitation? Photos, letters, gifts, etc.
Good luck, and what a great start you're making!!What qualities would you look for in adoptive parents?
Those are the main questions I would ask down in the source box. For me personally, I would really want to know about how the couple interact together, what their hobbies are, how much contact they wanted me to have and their religious beliefs. Race wouldn't really matter to me at all, but I am not sure about the whole kids thing. On one hand I would like to see how the couple treats the kids they already have... do they yell at them? are the kids dressed worse then the parents or better? Do the kids get along with each other basically? I think I would be equally open to a couple who had children and one who didn't.
The most important thing to look for is love among the family members. Visit their home and see how many pictures they have of family members. The more pictures, the better. Also ask them about what happens if you want to know about your child's progress or if the child asks about you. Ask them about their idea of raising kids (they should be strict enough to enforce structure in the child's life but not enough to physically abuse the child). Ask them for examples of their friends with kids they will imitate... and see if you can talk to some of them about their child-raising.
Also ask about their desire for education... a child needs to be given all the chances for good education, but not forced into a particular field.
I don't think race or previous children are a big issue, especially the latter. An older child who is happy and loved will in fact make a great older sibling for your child. And it's extra proof that the adoptive parents will love and nurture your child. It depends on the child and how the parents handle the new baby... remember, they could have a child after adopting your baby too. So don't go by that alone.
Good luck!!
I would want to know if they plan to raise the baby in a certain religion.
When we met our biological family, I don't recall many questions other than ';tell us a bit about yourselves';. That opened up the door for a wonderful conversation between all of us, and it just went beautifully from there. When they asked us to be the parents, we were ecstatic.
I would think if I was making an adoption plan for a child, I would want to know the basics, like how long the couple has been together and what their ideas of parenting would entail.
As for the race, we have many friends who have adopted internationally or children of a different race here in the states. I believe that is one of the beautiful things about our society today - that mixed families are not frowned upon as they were in the past - and it's a beautiful way to introduce new customs and traditions into family life.
Good luck to you. And ';thank you'; for creating an adoption plan for your child. You are giving an amazing gift to someone. Bless you.
The qualities in adoptive parents need be no different from those of biological parents but pls do ask if they would be open to ur having some connection/contact with ur baby later on in life.This is hugely important.The children ,often,show a strong desire later in life to know who their biological parents are.Many adoptive parents are open to this contact but some may not be comfortable with this idea.Best of luck and lots of love to u as u go thru the process of handing ur baby to the adoptive parents.
Financial status of the adoptive parents, their education, ask if they're college grads so they're able to teach your child properly. Race is a big issue, I think.. you want your child to learn from the same culture you grew up it. I agree with you, first time parents will be a better choice for that child.
Here are the questions I would ask:
Why do you want to adopt?
What do you do for a living?
What are your plans for work after the baby? Is one or the other going to stay home? Nanny, daycare?
How many hours a week do you work? (you don't want parents who work 80 hour weeks and have no time for your baby)
Financial capable of supporting a baby?
If they have children, how many? Have they talked to the children about adoptation?
Do they have family support? Grandparents close by, family/friends?
Are they going to tell the baby about being adopted? (Im not sure if you want an open adoption or semi-open or closed ) Will they keep in contact, pics, etc?
Then if you like those, get to know them
Where did you meet?
How long have you been married?
What do you do for hobbies/activities?
What is a way you deal with stress? Alone? Together?
Where do you live?
Make sure that if they check out there, that you go to their house and see where your child will be living, try and meet any family and friends that will be around the baby. This will give you a better idea on who they are. Good Luck!
Every question that has been posed so far is answered in the couples home study. I would ask to see their home study done by a licensed social worker. This is just the first meeting of many provided it goes well. Meet them and get your general feel. If you are like me you'll know after a short period of time whether you want to get to know them further.
Just remember no one is perfect and we all have our faults. You are looking for some one who would be a great parent.
As a side note I would say that I would ask what their intentions would be should the child be born with a deformity or mental deficiency. Are they looking for a perfect child? There is no such thing and at the same time they are all perfect.
Good luck.
What is the best way to persuade your parents to let you have texting?
I want texting really badly, because all my friends have it and my dad won't budge he says cellphones are to call people but none of my friends really talk on the phone they just text all the time. PLEASE HELP I'MDESPERATE!What is the best way to persuade your parents to let you have texting?
Most cell phone companies have addons where you can get like 200 texts a month for an additional $5. Show him that you're responsible and won't break the limit and that'll be a good way to convince him.What is the best way to persuade your parents to let you have texting?
mairi keep on asking 1000 100 1000 13000 times if dad tells you cell phones are to call other phones just get on the computer %26amp; add text messaging to your phone with out asking dad!!! or call your cell phone carrier(singuler, sprint, vzwect) thank you try that %26amp; your dad will let you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hey check out this cool thing called Skype. If you get it too , you can talk top your friends for free. Please make a choice.Already a Skype user? click now files may download if needed click here to get skype or find out more
my skypename is bill.dengler
Get a job so you can pay for it yourself...I don't blame him, texting almost always runs over the monthly limit for most people, and it costs too much.
pay for it yourself
tell him you'll rack up the bill by talking to someone in tokyo for 3 hours.
most carriers charge for sending and getting texts. tell him he is better off getting u texting cause if all ur friends send u texts it will run up the bill
Most cell phone companies have addons where you can get like 200 texts a month for an additional $5. Show him that you're responsible and won't break the limit and that'll be a good way to convince him.What is the best way to persuade your parents to let you have texting?
mairi keep on asking 1000 100 1000 13000 times if dad tells you cell phones are to call other phones just get on the computer %26amp; add text messaging to your phone with out asking dad!!! or call your cell phone carrier(singuler, sprint, vzwect) thank you try that %26amp; your dad will let you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hey check out this cool thing called Skype. If you get it too , you can talk top your friends for free. Please make a choice.Already a Skype user? click now files may download if needed click here to get skype or find out more
my skypename is bill.dengler
Get a job so you can pay for it yourself...I don't blame him, texting almost always runs over the monthly limit for most people, and it costs too much.
pay for it yourself
tell him you'll rack up the bill by talking to someone in tokyo for 3 hours.
most carriers charge for sending and getting texts. tell him he is better off getting u texting cause if all ur friends send u texts it will run up the bill
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